FFS this is an autism forum

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What is it with people here accusing others of attacking others?

We are visual, have communication issues, we have empathy issues, and last thing we need is accusations of being bullies or attacking others.

How ironic how people with the same problems can go around accusing others who have the same issues as them as attacking others or them.

Why can't we all give each other the benefit of the doubt?

This is a textbook example of how even people on the spectrum are not immune to being ableists to other people on the spectrum.

I guess some people have it more severe, i mean a lot of people are very sensitive but i understand it can be frustrating as i think one of the symptoms are that your opinion matters more than others i know that is the case with me and i find it very difficult to share others opinions. I hope this makes sense as i tend to rant on. Haha

Probably need another break from this forum. I hate myself.

League_Girl, please stay.  I value your insight, and I hope I have not offended you.

Maybe some people have mood shifts -- one minute a comment means nothing, and the next it looks like an attack.

Maybe some people are looking only for others to echo their words and experiences, or to simply agree with them.

Maybe some people do not even want any responses at all and just want to vent.

The trouble is that it is impossible for most of use to tell the difference between these and people looking for advice.

I am taking a big risk by even posting in this thread -- who knows who is going to take offense with me this time?

Very sad...

Oh, please don't go, I'm fed up with the good members keep leaving.

I think some of us are under a lot of stress with the pandemic and everything, so we may sometimes snap and say things we wouldn't normally say. The truth usually spills out when people are triggered by something small when they're already feeling angry or frustrated or stressed - although that isn't always an excuse to upset someone.

Which thread has brought all this on anyway? If you'd tell me, I will read it and see what was said to make you upset. So I am not taking sides, it just depends on what was said that made you upset.
I don't like people feeling upset.

maybe you can talk to a mod? I do not understand what happened.
Perhaps a misunderstanding?

There's nothing wrong with what you said.

Nothing wrong with what she said either.

If I was on AITA, I would say NAH (no a...holes here )

She misinterpreted you.

These things happen esp when people are autistic & stressed.

Please stay, we need the regular crowd here & I'd miss you.

I read the thread.
Most unfortunate situation. [hug]

If you need a break, take it. I value your posts and I'd miss you but your mental health goes first.
If you need mediation with other users, I can try my best.

The whole world is under additional stress right now and various mental health issues become more pronounced. Even without pre-existing conditions, people can get more easily agitated and confrontational. We need to deal with this the best we can.

I don't understand why it's an attack to ask why it's important to have your friends believe in god and why it matters? How is this misintrpeted?

What is wrong with trying to understand ,maybe they find that important because they want someone to go to church with them or say prays with them? What is stopping an athiest from doing it with them for support?

My mom is athiest or agnostic but when she worked as a nurse, she damn well made sure she respected her patients religion and advocate for them to get other nurses to respect theirs. She once ordered for a hospice patient to be taken out of their home or else it would destroy the wife and her kids if he passes away in that home because of their religion and they need to get that patient out of there and she knows this doesn't make sense but this is part of their religion.

Maybe I need to stay out of religion topics. I didn't tell her she was wrong or dismiss her religion. I even nearly got myself kicked out of Sunday school as a preteen for trying to make sense of religion and understand it because what I was learning at school was contradicting what I was learning from the bible so I was hearing two different things and it was confusing me and the teachers didn't know what to do about it so they wanted me to not be in their class because of "strange questions" I was asking.

I've been accused of attacking someone on this forum. Why? Apparently because I didn't answer his PMs. If not answering messages counts as attacking then I guess many companies around here that I've tried to get a job at have attacked me.

But seriously speaking, I get that this forum might have people who get offended easier than average people would. What I don't get is why don't some people just talk it out when us on the spectrum are supposed to be blunt and all. Like, why not just say "when you said X, I felt Y. Did you mean it that way, or did I misunderstand?" That's how easy it would be, but even here, people often jump to conclusions and read things that aren't there between the lines... or write something, but assume people to know that they don't mean it literally and then get offended when someone gets offended about the literal meaning of their message that "people should have understood was not meant to be taken literally."