My sisters are not worth it

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Hi:
I am feeling better since last week as I had a chance to process it and find some good mitigation. One my sisters attacked me openly on a Facebook page post that I had made. This was by taking a screenshot of a private message I sent to my youngest sister when I attempted to call her out for the stunts she had pulled on me. That said, a light went off in my head that they are not worth pursuing. For one thing, they are both quite childish and full of drama at that.

I am also glad that I didn't go on vacation with my sister and her friends that time. She's gotten to be really fake. I also glad that I am not going to be in or at her wedding. I think the situation would just be very unhealthy.

I am sorry your sisters treat you badly. If they can’t see that their actions drive you away from them, that’s their fault.

I don’t go on family vacations either myself anymore. Too much drama and my siblings’ kids are spoiled brats. Blood can only run so thick. Don’t let your sister guilt trip you for not attending her wedding.

I have two sisters. I went to one sister's wedding, I didn't go to the other. (She didn't come to mine, first.)

As for vacations - no way! The first time I opted out was about age 16. They were going to another city to visit historic sites, which normally I would enjoy. But it would have been six people in a car with my mother smoking all the way, plus really I didn't feel like spending my day with those people. My mother protested that I "had" to go, but my father said I was old enough to stay home alone. (At 16 - ya think? LOL)

As for family drama - my aged father is reported to have said "I'd rather die right now than have to put up with (oldest daughter's) drama again."

My siblings attended neither of my weddings, and I attended none of theirs.

Sure, it bothers me, but the gulf between us has been getting wider and deeper since childhood.

I do not like it, but there is nothing to be done -- they have their lives and I have mine.

There is so much more to live for and enjoy than hostile or indifferent siblings.

Marnkis,

I am not on speaking terms with either of them. The main reason is because they pull things that are hot buttons for me. I have been known to lose my tempter with them. Yet, they don't get it, rather they call my "Mentally ill," which I am just fighting back. They are spoiled brats as well next to putting on heirs. I don't think my sister wants me at her wedding being that she had shut me out of my dad's fundraiser and could not even find the remorse for it. As I said, I don't want to be there anyway. One of the reasons, my parents are also really toxic.