Why the anger?

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Why am I always angry at other people?
Why do I feel threatened by other people's opinions?
Why do I feel the need for society to get rid of my enemies all the time - at the most horrible ways possible?

What is going on around you?
Do you have supportive people with you?
Do you have a favorite activity you enjoy?

It is hard to be optimistic in a hostile environment with no friends or something to keep your mind off everything.

I can't answer why, but I can tell you having this realization is a big part to addressing it. I hope you're able to get to a better place, I can't conceive of how painful that one you're in must feel.

I don't know the answer to your question, but Fnord has the right idea I believe.

Part of it might be the lack of a support network, but part of the problem is likely internal and would contribute to the lack of a support network.

If one is constantly irritated by disagreements, differences of opinion and worried about people being out to get them, or feeling they must be prepared to retaliate for the slights those people inflict it's going to undermine their ability to trust others as well as others willingness to invest in their friendship. Whether or not one chooses to be hard to get along with, being hard to get along with will reduce one's support network.

Resolving the internal issue has to be the core solution because if one carries toxic traits that harm their ability to form a social support network the same patterns will repeat.

I've been asking similar questions to myself lately.

I try to avoid triggers and retreat into myself and smaller circles. But for some reason I keep going back. Often hoping to find solidarity but neither expecting or recieving it.
The only thing that helps for me is getting away, shutting myself off and focusing on the little good things I enjoy, but it's hard and I barely get it to work if at all. If that makes any sense.

I think it's a good sign that you're asking yourself those questions.

I used to have anger issues. I think there were many specific reasons that conspired for it to be that way, but generally speaking I think it all boiled down to "I was tired. Chronically tired." I needed to stop having unreasonable expectations. I needed to stop being my own worst critic. And as cheesy as it may be, I needed to learn to appreciate all the little things in life instead.

Once I switched paths... things got worse. A lot worse. But it was a new beginning. It set me free. And I wasn't "owed" anything anymore, just as much as I didn't owe anyone anything. It turns out life had been bad largely because of myself. And that's good. I don't think I could have known better until then, and I don't know that I could have done better either, but now I could, and now I can. That's what matters.

I'm still dismayed by all the unnecessary ignorance and hostility in the world, but I don't feel like I'm a victim of it anymore. I can be sad without being angry (I don't always succeed at it, but... it's possible now). I've learned to expect the worse, hope for the best, and do what I can with what I have. It takes time and determination to switch paths and go against the current, and it's not painless, but it's worth it.