Will I Ever See My Older Cousins Again?

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I haven’t seen my older cousins since last year. They are either quarantining themselves or are choosing to isolate for different reasons. Even the one who I would attend along with his girlfriend music shows in Austin and even visit on my way back home from there when it was safe to go out and about there hasn’t even wanted to even talk to me. He won’t return my calls or reply to my messages nine times out of ten unless it’s to tell me he and Rachel have other commitments and didn’t even attend my birthday. None of my other cousins wanted to come down either. The same cousin also didn’t want to take me out to eat for my birthday like he and his girlfriend used to do. They also had a child together recently but aren’t letting anyone come visit, even my aunt who is the grandmother of that child.

It’s really hurting my heart not to see them. The oldest of them even babysat me so that’s how strong the bonds between us used to be.

The last time I saw one of my older cousins I can’t remember if it was in May or June of last year. She didn’t come to my birthday either.

It sounds like it's probably because of Covid. Are they in your social bubble? I can barely see my boyfriend because of Covid. He couldn't even be in my bubble for a long time, as weird as that sounds. It's been against the law but even if it wasn't, I had to worry about other people's medical welfare ahead of my own wishes. My mother can't come to my house and hasn't been here since March 2020, although she lives ten minutes away - by herself, and with cancer. We haven't celebrated birthdays or any holidays for over a year. Plus, it sounds like they have a new baby? That must make them even more concerned about health and safety. I'm sorry you are missing them so much, but I hope that it's circumstances beyond your control. It will be nice when the world gets back to normal.

They don’t live in the same city I do. The cousin who had a child with his girlfriend lives in Walburg, a German Texas settlement, which is 40 minutes from me and the other two live in Georgetown which is not far away from there.

Don't mistake Covid dangers and restrictions with loss of family connection. This pandemic is getting closer to being over, and then I think you'll see family celebrations and visits become more normalized. Meanwhile, get vaccinated as soon as possible.

Probably mostly just covid related.

And the couple with a baby won’t have time or energy for almost anyone else.

Once covid is truly over, make an effort to go visit them if they don’t come visit you.

My mother’s side of the family, which my cousins in question are in, are definitely taking it seriously. Another reason for one cousin in particular not wanting to be around is because he has a seething jealousy for my older brother’s business. Both of them have also butted heads over politics with our cousin being liberal while my brother is conservative. There was a time in the past where they both had a mutual agreement that “Dubya” was a joke but my brother changed his outlook.

I’ll have to kiss going to see bands we both like performing in Austin with him and his girlfriend goodbye for some years.

I definitely will visit if they are fine with it. I had my vaccination a week ago and fortunately most of my family have gotten it as well.

Last edited by Marknis on 25 Mar 2021, 2:32 pm, edited 1 time in total.

There ya go! Ask them if you can plan a visit & come see them sometime.

And lucky on the vaxx thing - I'm still months away from being eligible to get a vaccine here, and people younger than me longer than that. Even my cancer patient father who's ~67 isn't eligible yet.. started with 90+ a few weeks ago (and 65+ if you're Indigenous) and right now it's 80+.

I'm not bubbled with my best friend since apparently he's somehow gotten engaged in the quarantine & it's been screwing with my head to no end.