Do people still like me? Not asking for help, just reassure

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I am suffering another severe depression spell that I can’t snap out of even while I am driving and visiting a friend at the same time. My mind is telling me people don’t like me here anymore because I am distraught about the speed dating event being cancelled and I feel tears in my eyes forming. I am not asking for help, I just want reassurance. If I get reassurance, I will be okay and will be able to cry tears of relief rather than ones of sadness. I’ll also be able to feel peace.

Of course I like you.

At least you have a few friends....that's good.

I like you Marknis. I'm sorry you suffered another big disappointment, but I have faith that things will get better in time.

It's good that you are taking small steps to change your life / goals.

Would you consider channeling all your angst and frustration into being a "tortured artist" type?

I know you like writing, and playing guitar. Could you use the opportunity to be creative and rant with songwriting or art, instead of feeling upset and shutting down?

^ Ooh that's a really good idea!

I like you too Marknis!

Some of my detractors posted in a thread indirectly targeting me and I gained another today.

Do the better things include me finally getting a girlfriend?

I got a message back from the museum but my work schedule got messed up again so unless I can make my supervisor change my hours that day or take a vacation time, I won’t be able to talk to the person who messaged me in person.

I’ve been wanting to do some creative projects but the disappointing turns of events that have been happening to me lately have ruined my motivation. I am also depressed seeing my detractors here as well as the positive posts even by my non-detractors because I wonder why I can’t do the same things as them.

I haven’t played my guitar lately. I’ve been frustrated with it honestly for years now because I am just not as good as I should be with it. I can’t play like the professionals do and even taking lessons for years didn’t make me reach their levels.

You can do some things others can't. For example, I can't play guitar at all even though I had lessons. If you can manage it, definitely try to focus on the positive and fun things. Doing that might indirectly help the girlfriend situation and even if it doesn't at least you'll be having a better time. I know that's a lot easier for me to say than it is for you to do though!

I went through a period like that for years. I picked it back up because I realized letting my skills erode was only getting me further from my goal.

I'm not as good as I was and it's gonna take awhile to build my downpicking speed until I can consistently downpick like I used to be able to. I'll never be able to play leads like either of my brothers can but that just means I might need to find other ways to use the instrument.

Is the issue with your actual playing, or is it with your ability to make it sound like what you're imagining wanting it to sound like?

Purge your feelings with loud music and play guitar along with it, even if you can't keep up. You don't have to be professional quality, or impress anyone. I didn't mean for you to record it if you aren't ready. Just use music and guitar and angst to redirect your emotions. When I have a bad day it's my go-to cure.

Make a playlist. Scream into the wind. Punch your pillow. Whatever it takes.

What songs would feel good right now?

I like you, Brother Marknis.

You will always have a strong presence here on Wrong Planet!

Were you still hoping I will finally get a girlfriend? Please let me know.

This song honestly reflects how I feel, especially when Henry mentions that there are no girls who want to touch him. If I could feel the gentle touch of a girlfriend, I would be happy but I’ve been denied that:

Black Flag is great. I'd love you to have a girlfriend but I've already said so many times. I didn't know I had to repeat myself. I thought you might want reassurance that music might be a good outlet for your feelings.

I hope you can play the song really loud on repeat, and play guitar, and start to feel a little better.

This is one I might be able to learn:
https://tabs.ultimate-guitar.com/tab/bl ... abs-208495

I like you Mark and find your hobbies and interests interesting.

Do you even like playing guitar? If you actually like playing it doesn’t matter if you’re not a professional. There is no way you could be as bad as I am at playing. My brother said I sucked at playing guitar and he even yelled it when he said it. It hurt my feelings and I don’t even bother playing anymore.

I'm sure your playing isn't terrible either and I'm sorry he ruined it for you. I hope you're able to take another crack at it too.

I'm probably worse than either of you but I won't get any better by giving up.

I had a teacher until the pandemic and the depression that was brought on from it made me lose motivation to play the guitar but it was also because I can’t play a guitar solo or even do a pinch harmonic despite years of lessons. They feel and sound superhumanly fast while my fingers, despite being long and skinny which is suitable for guitar playing, just can’t pull off what is required. I honestly can’t even play a full Beatles, Rolling Stones, Doors, Led Zeppelin, and Black Sabbath song, even if I really like the song.