I'm losing my edge

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While I have not been in any relationships or sexually active for the vast majority of my life, let's just say that I have often used the internet to alleviate some of the tensions. What I've noticed, particularly in the past 3 or 4 years, is that when I engage in such activities, it's become less out of being driven by a strong desire and more and more just out of desperation to hold onto a fading sex drive. I feel that that aspect of life passed me by years ago, and now I'm just a pathetic old man struggling desperately to hold onto the fading youth that I already missed out on.

Same here! My sex drive has been declining since I was in my early 20s. Now it's pretty weak. Definitely different. Don't care that much about the Internet stuff, when it used to excite me. Still watch it though out of habit or for entertainment.

Dorkseid, you're over 20 years younger than I am. You're not an "old man" because I'm not an "old man."

I wish you would talk to somebody objective about your concerns.

And "sexual peak" is a myth.

Old is a comparative term, not an absolute one. I am older than some people and younger than others, as are you. But what I am is older than I used to be. I am also obese and significantly out of shape both physically and emotionally. And as a result, there are many things that I was capable of when I was younger that I am now either less capable or incapable of. I am not appealing to some universal peak or post-peak regarding sexual fitness or health in general, but rather I am describing my own individual experiences. It is great that you are still in great health at your age. But I am not you. And I most certainly am not doing well in that department at all.

You can turn the corner.

Start with “baby steps.” Walking around the block. To the store.

At least you’re not 400 pounds.

I think doing nofap will help you direct your energy to real women. basically its not looking at porn or doing it alone and counting how many days you can go without.

theres forums and when you have a strong urge, go here https://emergency.nofap.com/

Only problem is that there are no real women available to me.

But you can improve your interactions with women and maybe push your comfort zones

I mean that there are literally no women available. All the women I meet are married or have boyfriends.

You've probably already thought of this, but there are plenty of health conditions that can affect your sex drive. A conversation with your doctor, changes to diet and exercise, these could help bring back your libido. If you want to. That or experiment and change things up a little. Just because you're single doesn't mean you can't have fulfilling sexual experiences.

I have an abnormally low testostrone level, and I am excessively overweight. A few years ago I went to a men's clinic and got treatment. But it didn't have any noticeable effects and was cut short due to Covid-19. Insurance won't cover men's hormone therapy so I had to pay out of pocket even though I didn't get the opportunity to complete the treatment.

Despite all that, my libido and, umm, "functioning" were fine up until my psychiatrist prescribed me an antidepressant that commonly has these kinds of side effects. I took it for a while, but I talked to my doctor and stopped because I didn't like the side effects. And even though I stopped that medication over a year ago, I have never recovered from the side effects.

My doctor also prescribed me Viagra. I have not had any actual sexual encounters. But I did experiment with taking the Viagra before watching videos or going to a gentleman's club. It seems to sometimes cause a slight improvement, but even with it I haven't been able to get back to where I was before.

I think I'm permanently broken now.



I haven't had any hook ups or one night stands or any other kinds of causal sexual encounters either in over 10 years. As far as I can tell, women have no sexual interest in me whatsoever.