Higher functioning autistic dealing with lower functioning

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So I agreed to provide transportation home from a medical appointment for a family member with autism complicated by numerous co-morbids. The time to expect her call came and went. I texted her to let us know when we were needed. She texts back, "I slept through my appointment."

I told her to find someone else to rely on for a ride, next time.

But this isn't about her. This is about me. I feel angry at the wanton waste of my time and resources, but because she is needier than me, feel I can't display anger. I also have the autistic inability to shift my plans after an unexpected change. I still have most of the day open to myself, and it's a beautiful day. But I just feel stuck. I guess I'm writing this to get it off my chest.

I've been there, Bea.

Whether the person has "complications" or not, you still had to change your routine to accommodate her needs, only to have wasted the effort and thrown your schedule completely off track.

I will only be available to certain people as their very last resort.