Hugs, Fenn.
I like your phrase about wanting to feel "a part of" wanting to be "apart from". That's very well put.
I feel the same way. Likewise, I have a very hard time trusting anyone because of trauma. I like to stay in safe spaces (for lack of a better word) on here, like the games threads and posting music. It's helped me to get to know some regulars and bond over laughs and lighthearted topics where there's nothing to lose.
I hope to see you around on the games threads more.
The more the merrier!
PS - Go build a birdhouse! 
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