I think I'm going through a aging crisis

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Is there a term for those who have a fear of aging? I wonder if anyone has ever committed suicide from it.

First it was my hair, now I am obsessing about lines on my face. They used to not bother me because I couldn't see them unless I got close to the mirror and now I can really see them without trying. Now I am fearing crows feet and other stuff and fearing my smile lines and frown lines and fore lines will get deeper and then everyone will see them even with my face being still. I've start using anti aging cream to keep my face looking young and I think I have irritated it because my forehead hurts and I noticed some red on my face. My husband thinks it's all in my head and says everyone has this stuff, even kids and babies and stop believing what I read online about wrinkles. Now I am afraid of sleep wrinkles and afraid one day my sleep lines will not disappear like they always do when I get up (internet says it will start in my late thirties so my time is coming) so I went out and bought a foam pillow and going to order silk pillow cases soon because sleeping on my back is so uncomfortable and I have been keeping a small pillow under me for support and I use two pillows for support so I don't make my neck sore. I am also afraid to make other faces fearing new lines will form there and not go away. I'm already thinking about getting a botox to make it easier for me to rest my face so the muscles will stop contracting when I spread my lips or smile or talk. I hate those lines that keep appearing next to my mouth when I talk or move my lips aside. It looks ugly. It will also keep me from raising my eye brows when I look up or focusing or frowning when I focus.

I even decided to try make up and maybe the reason why people older than me seem to lack fore lines and smile lines is because they use make up so I want to try it now. Or maybe they don't raise their eye brows so much or smile so much.

I guess lot of women have always started going through it in their late tweens or twenties because here I am in my thirties and finally understanding what a beauty sleep is and understanding facemasks and the purpose of make up too and all this other cream stuff people use on their skin. I didn't care about make up because I took my youth for granted and did nothing about my skin in my twenties and early thirties. I was like "when I start to notice age, I will do something about it and start worrying" and had no understanding why teens and young women would even waste their money on beauty products when they already look good. The time has come for me and I have been having anxiety since and it's affected my mood too and my functioning. I've been going out and spending money like crazy for my youth looking skin but I am so worried about my face. It starts with your face before it moves its way down. I've also been keeping my neck craned fearing I will get a double chin and more lines.

And also I swear my brain is trying to kill me because it wants me to sit on the rail in the stairwell five stories up. Part of just doesn't want to live because I don't want to see any ugly wrinkles on me in the future and any gray hairs or sun skin and poochy and crepey skin and age spots. I keep looking at pictures of celebs who still manage to keep their beauty and still be wrinkle free and line free to give me hope I can still be pretty when I get older and I gotta take good care of my skin fast so I won't look like this in my 50s:

https://images.app.goo.gl/oNgqPJZQ4KVN2Ce86

I want to look like this in my 50s:

https://images.app.goo.gl/XYGS3v46iXmCjxqU7

All wrinkle free and line free and very little lines you would even see on teens and young women.

It gets a bit scary when you move past your last age threshold for things like 25 where you can rent cars or hotel rooms more easily.

It's just a significant departure from what we're used to, and it deepens the sense that our lives are a ride on fixed tracks that we can't dismount or radically change. The myth of perpetual progress and growth starts to set in as a myth as well when you see most of the people around you barely moving forward. Definitely a lot of challenging modal shifts.

A term... um... midlife crisis, perhaps? I mean, the stereotype is that around that age, women start paying more attention to their looks and try to hide any visible signs of aging, so it would fit...?

Meh, ageing happens. So do special interests. You'll get distracted by a new special interest sometime by random chance and that'll be the end of worrying about ageing.

Here's a dose of reality: When instead of forehead lines and gray hairs, aging dishes you up a dose of cancer, stroke, or COPD, you'll be a lot less concerned with forehead lines and gray hairs! At age 40 I noticed a lot of my friends started having health problems they never had before; some even dying from them. Now, THAT'S scary.

As to flawless celebs: two words: botox, and photoshopping.

Says he from the perspective of 38 years.

I’m definitely having trouble at this developmental stage. Not looks so much as it is decreasing abilities and being less useful.

Going from being a business owner providing employment to some and needed services to others, to….? I want to retire, but it’s a big role change.

Going from being tough and capable to letting my husband put the canoe on top of the car, etc.

Beauty is just a side effect of health. Couple lines on your face don't matter if you are strong, healthy and radiating energy.

Celebrities are paid to endorse stuff they don't use themselves. They put a lot of work, sweating at a gym five days a week and religiously following their diets to be in that shape. Don't fall prey to misleading marketing.

Please don't even think about suicide because of a few lines on your face.....

I am one of those---who believe "crow's feet," etc. are indicators of wisdom, rather than decline.

Even at 60, I have very few wrinkles....but I don't have much wisdom, either.....

I got botoxed and I am thinking about getting dermal, fillers. I realized I lost all my facial volume because of weight loss and I am not putting on any weight for my face. I don't want a big butt and thighs again and upper arms. I will save up and get fillers in my face. Bye bye ugly dynamic accordion wrinkles when I smile. I don't want them to settle into my face. I already have two lines around my mouth.

I am also taking biotin and multivitamins. I am thinking about taking calcium too and I am taking collagen supplements every day and drinking lots of water now. I also cut back on sugar. I want to look young as long as I can without looking like an old lady in my 50's. If I am 70, it be great if I looked in my 50s. When I am 90, it be great if I looked in my 70's.

According to Bing, I should have lost 5-10% of my facial volume at my age.

Closing in on 39 with a receding hairline and a fluffier waistline than the lean fit shape I was in pre-covid -> these are critically important things in the aesthetic obsessed gay community.. sooo, yeah, from my perspective of 38 years.

^ I’m sorry, goldfish. I didn’t mean harm or to minimize the age problems when one approaches any of the big decades. The smiles were meant to communicate that. I should have put some hearts with them.

You’re doing well to stay positive about the signs of age.

I felt the same as you describe until my body started really giving out and Death sits on my shoulder.

Meh, I'm not offended nor too concerned. Just pointing out that I'm not exactly 18 anymore.

I can very easily deal with being a fatass, all I have to do is hit the treadmill, workout, eat a clean diet - voila - I'll be lean and strong again in a matter of months. Blessings of being a male.

The hairline thing is somewhat annoying. Someone suggested I start using something like Rogaine before it's too late. Hmm, I dunno. Maybe. I mean, I am vain to an extent, but also dgaf to another extent.. like I might just say F it and let whatever happens naturally happen and then just keep my hair cut super short all the time instead of pretending like I have a full head of hair.

In the meantime, I haven't had my hair cut since ~November 2019 and I have curly ringlets sticking out from under the baseball caps I wear every day. At least a hat = temporary solution, anyways.

Was thinking about cutting my hair.. but some have said it looks like NPH's character "Count Olaf," from the Lemony Snicket's tv series and it should be my Halloween costume.. soooo, I might have to keep it at least until then.

I had my midlife crisis at age 60. I guess that means I'll live to 120.

But seriously - I would not date a woman who looks a lot younger, regardless of actual age. I don't want a woman who has an airbrushed looking face with no recognizable features. I want a woman who has that relaxed comfortable look - the look of serenity that only comes with aging well and resolved inner conflicts. In other words, wrinkles don't bother me.

Drink water to keep skin hydrated , wear sunscreen and a hat in the sun, retinol creams work great for fine lines and age spots.Steam your face to get rid of impurities, fill a pot with hot water and place a towel over head and water.Make sure it’s not too hot.Then use a clay mask to pull out toxins and to firm skin.Finish with a toner of witch hazel.Aspirin/ gelatin homemade masks will work as a homemade peel.It also removes fine hairs.There are recipes online.
Lemon juice will also remove dead skin and lighten spots,aloe Vera fresh from the plant is also great.
Use moisturizer always.
Eat healthy and avoid stress if possible.There is a reason they are called worry lines.