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Im living at home and i have never worked at a job until this age (23). My situation limits my abilities (autism and severe social anxiety). Also im sure I dont get along with people and i cant fit in society.This year the university starts this is my second year but im too anxious to go there. Its soooo hard to find friends for me and be accepted. I mean im not that stupid but the necessity of having social bonds and interactions put me behind in life because i cant do that kind of stuff. Anyway, sorry for my bad english. Rant done for today. I hope you understand me

these days, most people with jobs have never worked..

for example - Doctors not practising medicine with a licence.

I have never worked either and I am 25. I also have the same problems you mentioned. Also I am afraid of NTs bullying me at work. I don't know how I am going to survive in this world

I'm in my early 30's, and spent my entire twenties unemployed before, during and after graduating from university.

Granted, there were and have been stop gaps with freelancing opportunities, but anything regular was short-lived. I had an average expectancy of 3 weeks with the majority of menial jobs. Cleaning and retail in particular.

Searching and retaining a job related to my degree proved even more difficult, and in terms of living with my parents, I managed to move out at around 23-24 due to my change of circumstances providing to be advantageous in the long run.

It's ironic to think my experiences of unemployment are now leading me down a path of potential permanent employment.

What are you studying at university out of interest? Are they aware of your struggles? Where I studied, they were incredibly accommodating of my needs and helped me through my studies via Counselling and 1:1 support that in turn, helped me become more comfortable and confident with myself to then in turn, strengthen my willpower to endure the initially daunting gauntlet of social etiquette that eventually becomes as near to second nature as possible. Much like learning to play an instrument, you practice and learn from your mistakes.

Regarding not getting on with people. I wholeheartedly understand this having been there myself and continue to now at times.

I know it's easier said than done, but by overly worrying about making friends and wanting to fit in, it will only feed into your social anxiety. If you try and focus on your own well being, then in time, your own insecurities and worries should subside. Being more comfortable and confident with yourself should hopefully help you open up to people and make friends.

I hear ya, brother. I do have to work, but I'm not one of these "get off your keister, you lazy bum" types. I envy those who don't have to work but can still survive somehow. I know how hard it is. Then again, I've encountered people who've never had to work that really don't know just how hard it is. Not even the work itself, but the social BS that goes in to keeping a job. It's been said, and I agree, the most important thing isn't how hard you work, it's how much your co-workers and managers like you. Very, very true. Life is much more difficult for us because of our social deficits more than our performance ability.


Godspeed, brother. You realized, after looking at your job history, that your most successful "jobs" were when you weren't working.

Thanks. It's come full circle as it's related to what I studied at University.

I have never worked either except for a brief summer job. I'm not great at social interactions. I also have Schizophrenia. That makes working hard because I get paranoia and sometimes I talk about things that weird people out such as religion. I'm on my medication again though. I'm hoping to try to get a job this year though. I'm not sure if I need accommodations though.

Have you considered contacting employment firms that can help you find work?

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I didn't get my first paid job until I was 22. Before then I was unemployed and seeking employment, and just did voluntary work.



I used to have this fear too, before I started work.



I'm 31 and I've never worked full-time hours in a week, if that makes anyone feel better. My jobs have always been part-time (around 18-20 hours a week). Most people my age and younger are in full-time work, even if they live with their parents or a rich partner and so aren't desperate for the money. Older people generally cut their hours down but not people my age, unless they have young kids.

I don't get why does it bother anyone nowadays, you can work remotely, make a great career never ever needing to meet anyone in person, using only email and slack for communication.

If you don't need the money i do not think it is absolutely necessary to work.

First of all, it sounds like you managed to complete one year of college and are all set for year two, but now don't want to go because of social anxiety. I hope you will reconsider that decision. You've got a good start and you will learn more social skills if you continue at college.

My understanding of the current employment and economic situation in the US is that a lot of young people are not employed and have moved back in with their parents. I don't see this as something to be ashamed of at this time.

It used to be that colleges had work-study jobs. Is there anything like that at your college? I started out washing dishes in a genetics lab. At $1.75/hour!

There are supposed to be accommodations made for people with disabilities. Perhaps a call, or a visit with a college counselor would be productive for you.

Make calls, look for information, and each call you make and each NO you get, is good experience. One of the most important things to learn, I think, is how to hear "no" and just move on.