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Earthbound_Alien
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13 Dec 2021, 10:27 pm

stop hating yourselves my sweethearts
stop it

please stop it and come and have cuddles



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13 Dec 2021, 10:30 pm

please stop it

I like you

and I know it does not mean much
but you and your life is more precious than. you think



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14 Dec 2021, 9:54 am

i like autistic people

you are cool. you have fascinating interests

and fun hobbies

and you are not too social

and I love you

so stop with the self hatred

stop it

you are gorgeous



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14 Dec 2021, 9:58 am

:) Good advice. I have been a bit... Good advice.


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14 Dec 2021, 10:01 am

I relate to you more than other humans even if you don't have my habits

ie I like to rub silky material

I used to have a High iq of 143 but am dumber in my ol age

its ok I'm just sad I can't study anymore

the more my intellect declines the more autistic. I get


but I did not have normal developme
nt

forwards in some ways, but behind in others

backwards and forwards at the same time

weird



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14 Dec 2021, 10:03 am

Mountain Goat wrote:
:) Good advice. I have been a bit... Good advice.

no hating yourself

not allowed here



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14 Dec 2021, 10:07 am

I don't know where I fit, as in being on the spectrum or not.

I am trying to work out something and what to do about it, and it involves trying to work out if I have done right or wrong by what someone has said, as I take words for what they are said and not what they imply, so if they imply I can get what they imply if I look back and think about it, but then get confused by trying to work out if the words were implied, or if they should just be taken as they were said. It is putting pressure on me which makes me freeze from doing anything as if I should try to correct the situation or not.


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14 Dec 2021, 10:11 am

"thin line between love and hate"

As a result I try to steer clear of both love and hate

What is good in one situation is bad in a different situation

For example, in middle school, introversion was bad. Living in the wild, introversion is good

I hate everyone else even more than I hate myself

(Shift the coordinate axis)



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14 Dec 2021, 10:30 am

Don't hate yourself or everyone else.

People tend to act and react according to what they see. Some are stupid, but remember that they do learn from past mistakes. We all do mistakes and learn from them. It is how we grow.
Sometimes we need a hand up as sometimes we can't make it alone.
I once spent a few hours rockclimbing. People at the top had safety ropes on us as we went up one at a time.
I reached a point in the rock on the route that I had chosen where the nearest next handhole was about a foot above me. Sure I could go back to try a different route, but that was quite a way from where I was. I looked up to the leaders of the course who held the rope and I said "Can you pull me up about a foot so I can have a place where I can put my hands". They helped me by pulling me up a little. One I had that hand up which was not far, I was ableto climb the rest of the rock unaided and after I absailed back down. Two things I had not really done before.

Life can be like that. At times we eed someone who is strong to pull us up. Sometimes that person may be weak at other times and need to be pulled up themselves.
I always have tried to be independent. I have for much of my life been like this in that I don't make friends easily, and often find people abandoning me.
I am used to this.
People like me to copy them and try to make me copies of them to be "Accepted". It took me around 35 to 40 years before I realized that no matter how I tried, I could not be someone else or conform to someone elses ideas. When I realized this, I kinda said "Stuff it. I will be myself!"
Being myself helps me stay sane. :D


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14 Dec 2021, 3:16 pm

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
"thin line between love and hate"

As a result I try to steer clear of both love and hate

What is good in one situation is bad in a different situation

For example, in middle school, introversion was bad. Living in the wild, introversion is good

I hate everyone else even more than I hate myself

(Shift the coordinate axis)
it is OK

the social world is difficult to manouvre



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14 Dec 2021, 3:23 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
I don't know where I fit, as in being on the spectrum or not.

I am trying to work out something and what to do about it, and it involves trying to work out if I have done right or wrong by what someone has said, as I take words for what they are said and not what they imply, so if they imply I can get what they imply if I look back and think about it, but then get confused by trying to work out if the words were implied, or if they should just be taken as they were said. It is putting pressure on me which makes me freeze from doing anything as if I should try to correct the situation or not.



are you. on wrong planet too

I recognise you from sommewhere



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14 Dec 2021, 3:43 pm

Earthbound_Alien wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
I don't know where I fit, as in being on the spectrum or not.

I am trying to work out something and what to do about it, and it involves trying to work out if I have done right or wrong by what someone has said, as I take words for what they are said and not what they imply, so if they imply I can get what they imply if I look back and think about it, but then get confused by trying to work out if the words were implied, or if they should just be taken as they were said. It is putting pressure on me which makes me freeze from doing anything as if I should try to correct the situation or not.



are you. on wrong planet too

I recognise you from sommewhere


I think I am? Haha! Could you recognise me from this site? :D


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