My experience is that once your community finds out that you have a serious mental health issue, people can't feel safe around you anymore until they know you're on meds. I'm not trying to support their belief that you should take medication, but you should know that people will feel safer around you if they know you see a head doctor. The doctor might agree with you that medication isn't right for you, in which case you can cross your arms at the medication-pushers and tell them your doctor said you don't need pills. Going to a head doctor will help your reputation at this point, since people already think you need one. You have to start with a psychologist, not a psychiatrist, though -- the psychologist may or may not refer you to a psychiatrist.
BTW: That feeling of being a loser might disappear if you get (and bond with) a psychiatric service dog. Being bonded with an animal lets you get the oxytocin you need without having to deal with a human relationship, which means you will feel less lonely and desperate for human friends.
I hope that helps! 
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~Lord Mikey~
P.S. I am a college educated adult living in the State of Oregon, USA.
I am not qualified to give advice of a medical or psychiatric nature.
THANK YOU!