I'm just lonely

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I don't know how to be difference, how to show interest in other people, how to flirt, and I'm just tired of being this way and feeling so isolated. Not sure why I'm even bothering posting this and venting as if anyone cares

Are you saying you have no friends?

i have very few online friends, even with them i don't feel very connected. as for my real life, i only see one friend any more, maybe 2 times a year. things have gotten significantly worse with lockdowns and everything since covid

I’m sorry you are lonely and have few friends. That’s not an easy place to be.

Can you tell us a little more about your life so we can get to know you better? What are your interests? Are you in school? Do you live by yourself, or with others?

I also have only one friend that i regularly see and even she has started ignoring me. I am sorry you are experiencing the same thing, i wish we didn't have to experience these feelings.

It is a tough time to be a young person, yes.

Many of us here could have written your opening letter.
Autism seems to disable expression of emotions and communications, but we have the same feelings and emotional needs as others.
I am so grateful for Wrongplanet;
Other people don’t understand.

It's horrible being lonely when you don't want to be.

I feel I have less contact with friends since the covid pandemic started. I had one or two friends that I used to meet up with but that obviously stopped during the lockdowns and I haven't really heard much from them since, only the odd text chat. Even now that the pandemic is more or less over I still don't hear much from them any more, they're not even on Facebook. I do have a friend who I have long phone conversations with, so that's something. And I have a few friends at work but the one I'm closest to wants to move away to the other side of the country so no doubt I'll lose touch with him in time.

Despite having social media and zoom and all that, it's still a case of "out of sight, out of mind" with a lot of people. I'm glad I have my family, because I count them as friends, and they literally will be friends for life because I have a very loving, supportive and close family. And I have my boyfriend and his family too, so I wouldn't say I'm lonely.

But I do often crave social interaction, which is why I come to WP very often. Maybe you should stick around and become a regular member of WP. I've made some good friends here that I keep in touch with via email and PMs. You're always welcome here and if you need a chat just send a PM to me.
But I understand if that isn't quite what you want, if you'd prefer to meet friends in person. I prefer that too.

Yep. Internally, I'll say many of us feel emotions to a heightened degree than those without due to the lack of expression, social connections and sensory processing disturbances (emotions are created via sensory inputs after all). Of course, a good amount of us will need time to ourselves, much like the extreme end of introversion, but that doesn't change the underlying emotions.

Normal people won't understand this one and often come to the wrong conclusions. Numerous times people have thought I disliked them simply because I couldn't show anything, for example, which would lead to passive or aggressive bullying depending on who it was.

People have often distanced themselves from me because I show TOO MUCH emotion and they called me "whiny", "nosy" and "annoying".

More extroverted/outgoing people with autism will just show them to others in the real world. A lack of the social and emotional filter of autism will manifest how it does based on the underlying personality.

That makes complete sense there with you, and normal people won't understand it for the same reasons. Instead of hiding it [for whatever reason], you show it.

That totally describes my frustration. It really hurts when I feel that deep down inside I feel the same things as others, yet nobody knows it. Such as when I see people having a deep conversation and I feel like I am just like them, yet they don't know this: as I would never be invited to that conversation (or anything else for that matter).

Hello, ChloeBoe and all. Sorry for those feeling lonely but make room for me on that bench, please! My life has definitely been reduced due to the pandemic and I'm really unsure if I feel safe trying to go back out again yet. I liked my job but it wasn't safe condtions and my daughter asked me to quit during the pandemic. Since then, I met a new friend but it seemed like it was only me asking her to do stuff, never the other way. I don't think that's how friendship works. I stopped asking and didn't hear from her again. Tried another group thing and have no idea why this one woman was being really hostile towards me. Is it just me or is the world getting meaner out there?

^You just met the wrong person, Beady. I'm sorry you were exposed to the hostile attitude.

I actually don't believe people have changed all that much because of COVID.