Since I was recently questioned on this matter, I would like to created a comprehensive record of all my experiences of misandry directed at me personally throughout my life, so that I can refer back to whenever the matter is questioned in the future.
Growing up, my mother constantly belittled and shamed me for my gender, and constantly made condescending and hateful comments and jokes about boys and men.
I was subjected to genital mutilation with my consent when I was a child.
When my brothers were subjected to genital mutilation as infants, they experienced excruciating pain which made them scream and cry uncontrollably for weeks. My mother would often laugh and make jokes about their pain and suffering over the years.
When I was a child, my stepfather's cousin isolated me in an unused bathroom in the family house and raped me. A year later, a another boy raped me in the back of a dumpster at my school. I have had people accuse me of lying about this because I'm a man.
For a number of years, my stepfather forced me to use only the bathroom I had been raped in, while the rest of the family used a different bathroom. He did this because he thought I shouldn't use the same bathroom as my sisters.
My stepfather shamed me for my autism symptoms, namely my introversion and poor social skills, by saying that I should have been a girl. (To clarify, I don't find the idea of being a girl insulting, but in his mind this was condescending and demeaning)
My ex fiancé abused me psychologically. She gaslighted me, told me other women said I'm ugly and gross, and constantly used the threat of leaving me to control me. I felt like I was constantly walking on eggshells with her, and was afraid to go anywhere or buy anything with securing her approval. She socially isolated me until my social circle consisted only of her and her small inner circle of friends, all of whom supported her and actively participated in gaslighting and manipulating me. And all the other people I knew at the time simply stood by and watched this all happen while doing nothing about it.
When I was struggling to find a job during the recession, my ex broke up with me over the phone. And then she and her friends attacked me calling me a loser and a bum and comparing me to druggies and deadbeat fathers. They spread lies about me, saying that I cheated on her and abused her. And because I'm a man, everyone was eager to believe all their lies while nobody would hear my side of the story or believe me when I told the truth. I was still being attacked and called names on social media by people who've never even met me several years later.
When I was homeless, I was denied shelter specifically because of my gender.
Even after throughly explaining that I have ASD and suffer from mental illness, and that I was unemployed and homeless; I was still told that as a "privileged male" all my struggles were exclusively my own fault for being "too lazy to hold a job."
And regardless of all the adversity and abuse I've endured throughout my life, I am still constantly being told that none of it is real because I'm a man.
12 Apr 2022, 11:46 pm
