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OK, don't call me immature or childish for worrying about this, because it will just upset me even more.

This year for my birthday I got fewer birthday wishes on my Facebook feed even though I always wish them a happy birthday. A friend who I used to work with wasn't going to bother wishing me a happy birthday until my cousin nudged her to. She's always on Facebook so it isn't hard to notice it's your friend's birthday. And I see she wishes other people a happy birthday, so it's not like she has the birthday reminders switched off. And I don't have mine switched off either.

Also a few people at work didn't bother wishing me a happy birthday this year, even though last year they did. I don't work with them any more but we're still in touch on Facebook. And another friend who always wishes me a happy birthday didn't bother this year either, even though I had put on Facebook that we were in the restaurant where she works to have a birthday lunch. I don't think she was working that day as I didn't see her, but I thought she'd be pleased her workplace was brought up on Facebook and might have commented something friendly. She would have before. And I bet she will post happy birthday on this other girl's Facebook next week, who isn't even that nice.

I just feel so abandoned this year. I feel like most people don't care about me any more. And these are friends who I know in person and who use Facebook a lot. So I just feel hurt. Like I said, I always take the trouble to wish them a happy birthday and like their posts and stuff. I must just be a really bad ugly person who nobody wants to waste any of their precious time with.

Happy Birthday!

It's not my birthday today, it's gone, but thank you. But I don't expect people here to acknowledge my birthday because I'm anonymous and I don't know anyone in person and WP doesn't have birthday reminders. But Facebook is a different thing and are full of people I know in person.

I just feel so isolated sometimes.

Even though I'm very active in groups I still feel isolated as well

Happy belated birthday, Joe.

Thanks, but you don't need to, as I'm just on WP to whine and rant. I'm different on Facebook.


Sometimes I feel like people don't like me ever since I told people I have ADHD. I'm not embarrassed about ADHD and I don't mind telling people. What if people don't like me just because they now know I have ADHD? This is a red warning sign NEVER to disclose autism to anyone because people would probably react even worse with that, like thinking I'm going to go into a corner and start rocking and flapping my hands because a plane in the sky is too loud. At least people can make assumptions about ADHD because I do more or less have almost every symptom of ADHD that I can't hide.

Also this isn't a thread to guilt people here into wishing me a happy birthday. Please don't feel obliged to.

I just get puzzled as to why I get treated so differently from others. It hurts. It's been happening all my life. It must be me.

Belated Happy Birthday!

I feel isolated around big holidays like the bunny days too, and lonely. Everythings closed, if you go outside there's nobody and nothing but bullies and judgemental beggars. Some non stop places are open, maybe pharmacies.

Suicides around big holidays increase in numbers because of the loneliness people feel, it's an expectation to be together, have people over or meet up. But some people are left behind, forgotten.

Perhaps your 'friends' aren't sympathetic towards people with mental health problems. I just get one card off my dad. My sisters don't usually bother and I haven't got any friends..

I don't use Facebook, Twitter etc as I don't want my private life splattered all over the internet.

sweetheart I've not had a birthday card, wish or present in 15years

I don't expect anymore

Same for me, closest family is aunt and uncle but don't keep in contact much and lately we can't go over even if they invite us they get upset.

No friends, don't post on social media.

I'm not a "bad, ugly" person----but not many people wish me a Happy Birthday, either....

I just keep feeling so downhearted lately. I've been through a lot, I lost my best friend and soulmate (my mum) last year and I couldn't even spend time with her those 2 years because of the covid restrictions and threats of being fined just for visiting your dying loved one, yet Johnson was partying and breaking all social restrictions during that time while many people died alone. I just feel so angry, then when people who I thought were friends can't even be bothered to wish me a happy on my first birthday I had without my mum, it just seems unfair. And I f*****g blame autism for it all; my mum's death and people not liking me. I feel like taking a gun to my head and shooting this worthless piece of s**t of a brain I have inside my head that's missing important connections that I need to succeed in this world.

I'm sorry you feel so destructive against yourself.

But you really should seek to acquire perspective.

I say this because committing violence against yourself with a gun should be reserved for TRULY lousy people. Not you. Autism doesn't make you lousy----not by a longshot.

There are many "misconnections" within me. People take advantage of that. It's them who should feel bad for taking advantage, not me for being autistic.

They don't feel bad though, and never will. They have friends, they're liked by people. It's me who has to suffer the social isolation. And social isolation can be emotionally painful at times.

Yeah....I know what you mean.

Social Isolation wasn't all that great for me, either. I could have taken a wrong path, been in jail, etc. I was a "latchkey" kid. My mother had her own problems when I was a kid; she had no time for me. Nobody else had much time for me, either.

Somehow, luckily, I decided not to take that route.

By the way: Happy Birthday! You're still young! I'm almost 30 years older than you.

I seem to be blessed in the fact I never get lonely.
I used to think this was an autistic thing, but I am not so sure these days.
Perhaps I am more autistic than the average bear?