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29 Apr 2022, 4:38 pm

Hi:

I am noticing that a lot of my friends are connecting each other or other people. It seems that every time I try to invite them to something, they always have other plans. They never seem to ask if I would like to join them. I know they are not doing this intentionally. Rather, they are just so busy with their other friends.

Yes, these are people who are on the spectrum and most of them are friends through support groups and other autism centers.



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02 May 2022, 8:37 am

Sorry you're going through this.

I've gone through similar.

I guess the only solution is to keep plugging away.

I wonder, knowing that you have a boyfriend, that they assume that now, you are unavailable for "single" people gatherings.



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02 May 2022, 9:13 am

Summer_Twilight wrote:
Hi:

I am noticing that a lot of my friends are connecting each other or other people. It seems that every time I try to invite them to something, they always have other plans. They never seem to ask if I would like to join them. I know they are not doing this intentionally. Rather, they are just so busy with their other friends.

Yes, these are people who are on the spectrum and most of them are friends through support groups and other autism centers.


Have you tried asking them if you're doing anything wrong? I wouldn't suggest that for NT people but seen as you're dealing with ND it might work.



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02 May 2022, 2:55 pm

Meetup dot com



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04 May 2022, 8:47 am

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
Meetup dot com


I was thinking about the same thing

Now regarding my boyfriend, we both decided to go back to being friends. I feel that we are not right for each other. Though we get along just fine, we both want very different things.

As for my friends, I will ask them what I have done wrong.



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06 May 2022, 8:18 am

One of the situations I am really upset about is regarding another woman on the spectrum who is in her mid 30's. She's a very person too and we have always seemed to connect and she's always talking about us getting together. On the contrary, I seem to be at the bottom of her list as well as she has other friends who she knows through different disability clubs and organizations. I have also sent out invitations to her which she never seems to open or respond to.

As for my other friends, I feel like their other friendships are getting really cliquey.