Best friend might kill himself

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roronoa79
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05 Jul 2022, 11:24 pm

Title.
Not sure why I'm making this.
Years of abuse by his wife and other friends are really catching up.
He's too disabled to work.
Can't do unemployment or disability. (I am not leaping through the verbal hoops I have to to explain why).
Medication didn't help.
Therapy didn't help. ("I diagnose you with Your Wife is Abusive Syndrome. The treatment is 100 mg of Divorce." "I can't divorce her or I will be homeless." "Oops. Well I can't help with that.")
He lived off the charity of others who have been slowly abandoning him or are now unable to pay.
He's in massive debt. I've almost run out of money picking up others' slack.
His wife brushes off his recent suicide attempts with "He is always suicidal." She takes no responsibility for the times she has driven him to try and kill himself with her actions.
He has digestive issues that make it difficult to eat.
He has seizures at night that make it difficult to sleep without drugs/alcohol.
His family is too impoverished and abusive to help him.

No hope. Don't know what to do except wait for the next paycheck and hope he isn't dead by then.
He's my only real friend. He's irreplaceable. I never opened up to anyone like I've opened up to him.
I couldn't even kill myself too to be with him. I just can't do it.

I'm just waiting to hear the news at this point.


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05 Jul 2022, 11:26 pm

Oh God. That's awful. I don't know what to say but I'm so sorry your friend is dealing with this.

I'm sorry that you're dealing with it as well.

Can you get help for yourself?

What would happen if you showed him what you wrote, so he knows how much you care?


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05 Jul 2022, 11:46 pm

This is awful.

I wish I had a solution.

I just hope he doesn’t do it.

I hope you can find a way for you to help him smile a bit. Sometimes, it’s the “little things” that can help. Even silly things sometimes.



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06 Jul 2022, 12:09 am

I feel very sad that any innocent person like you and your friend has to be in such an awful situation.

Is it possible for you to show how much you care about him as IsabellaLinton suggested so that he can see there's some hope?

Then, from there, let's try and find a path to your friend's divorce and happiness.