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Kitty4670
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07 Jul 2022, 9:10 pm

I’m very bad at being an adult. My Aspergers can be very bad, makes me feel like I’m sooooo immature for a 51 year old, next month, I will be 52. I not suppose to be 5 years old, on a good day, I’m in my 20-30s, but I’m soooo immature for my age. I was like that when I was in my 20 & 30s, I was still living with my mom, my parents separated when I was 16, I think they got a divorce. Anyway, I felt soooo immature in my 20s, but I was responsible more on alot of days. I worked at a disabled workshop when I was 21, I wasn’t a very good employee. In the beginning, I don’t remember if I was there everyday, that was 1991. But I do
know I skipped days of work later, I think I came in late too. The only time I was there for two weeks in a row was when I had a boyfriend there, we met at the workshop, I could not keep up going everyday, it felt like hard work. I worked at my mom's school too, I wasn’t a very good employee. I worked at an art gallery workshop too, I wasn’t there everyday, I ended up going there three days a week. I still not very responsible, I was more smarter back then too. It’s weird, when I was a child, I couldn’t wait to grow up, now I’m an adult wanting to be a child again.


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07 Jul 2022, 9:31 pm

I'm not going to make any value judgements on what you said; after all, you are the only person who is experiencing being you & all that comes with being you.

It does seem you have had extra struggles in recent years and I wish that you hadn't had to.

And there does seem to be an undercurrent of frustration in this post.


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07 Jul 2022, 9:52 pm

sucks. :cry:


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08 Jul 2022, 1:40 am

I used to be immature when I was a teenager, and I don't mean the typical immaturity most teenagers can be. I sometimes acted like a toddler and was a burden on my mum, like toddlers typically are. Not always, like when I was 14 I could sometimes behave 14, particularly at school, but otherwise at home my mental age would sometimes go down to 3. :oops:

I'm more mature now and I do feel like a 32-year-old. I know some NT 32-year-olds that still haven't got their lives together and act like 16.


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08 Jul 2022, 6:05 am

I’m not so great at being an adult sometimes.



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08 Jul 2022, 1:27 pm

The good thing about being an adult is that you can do so much more than you can when you're a child.

It took me years to understand adult responsibilities like paying bills, holding down a job etc but once I grasped that I was fine.

We can all be immature at times. I don't think that's exclusive to being on the spectrum either. I just think it's what people do.

I suppose its only really an issue if you're sucking your thumb in public and throwing tantrums in restaurants and supermarkets.



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08 Jul 2022, 8:21 pm

Poor girl I know how you feel.

I want to be more adult and know how to deal with things better too. I'm 37 and feel 12.



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09 Jul 2022, 8:33 pm

Being an adult is hard. Being a kid is hard, too, but for different reasons.


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10 Jul 2022, 8:58 pm

babybird wrote:
The good thing about being an adult is that you can do so much more than you can when you're a child.

It took me years to understand adult responsibilities like paying bills, holding down a job etc but once I grasped that I was fine.

We can all be immature at times. I don't think that's exclusive to being on the spectrum either. I just think it's what people do.

I suppose its only really an issue if you're sucking your thumb in public and throwing tantrums in restaurants and supermarkets.



I still don’t understand bills, how much it cost to run something, fans, ceiling fan & lights. I know air conditioner is more expensive & I think refrigerator is too. I have a water heater in my apartment, I don’t know almost nothing about it, how much cost to make hot water, I know it cost to have hot water.


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10 Jul 2022, 9:03 pm

Sarahsmith wrote:
Poor girl I know how you feel.

I want to be more adult and know how to deal with things better too. I'm 37 and feel 12.


I’m 51 & feel sooo stupid.


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10 Jul 2022, 11:08 pm

I wish I have someone that cares & want to help me. I have to do everything myself, I’m not responsible enough. I don’t want to live anymore. The problem is doing everything myself, I am so helpless, the thought of doing everything myself terrifies me. I’m 51 not a child. I can have very bad anxiety, I can have trouble breathing too. How can I be a grown adult if I’m mentally a child?


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10 Jul 2022, 11:28 pm

Sarahsmith wrote:
I want to be more adult and know how to deal with things better too. I'm 37 and feel 12.


I know this feel. :(


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16 Jul 2022, 12:44 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:
I wish I have someone that cares & want to help me. I have to do everything myself, I’m not responsible enough. I don’t want to live anymore. The problem is doing everything myself, I am so helpless, the thought of doing everything myself terrifies me. I’m 51 not a child. I can have very bad anxiety, I can have trouble breathing too. How can I be a grown adult if I’m mentally a child?


Hugs. I wish i could do something to help



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16 Jul 2022, 10:38 pm

I'm probably the only adult left on the planet who has never learned to drive a car or gotten a job and it looks like I will die that way. Which will be in a few more months or so.



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17 Jul 2022, 11:41 am

lostonearth35 wrote:
I'm probably the only adult left on the planet who has never learned to drive a car or gotten a job and it looks like I will die that way. Which will be in a few more months or so.


I also can't drive but somehow have gotten a job. I have to say you are not missing out on anything important.



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17 Jul 2022, 4:08 pm



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