my husbands best friend wants to live with us

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and im not happy about it

we live in a two bedroom bungalow theres me and my husbands bedroom and my sons bedroom and so i dont know where the idiot will sleep

i dont like him ..he split up with his wife and is divorcing and he hasnt been the same since..he seems all lost and depressed and just literally hangs around us all the time i dont want him living with us

but what can i do?what would you do?

I can understand it being a rough situation for you.

It's not fair for your husband to impose this person on you. I feel like it would affect your privacy.

Why can't he get his own place? I understand, in the UK, everybody is entitled to a place to live.

he doesnt seem to want to live without a woman

he probably sees me as a housewife

he used to be a gentleman but these days hes very gropey to me and i dont want it but my husband trusts him because they been best friends since they were young

but i dont like him i dont like anyone except my husband and my son and maybe my mother

That's not good that he's flirtatious with you.

Have you told your husband he's flirtatious with you?

I can understand it if you don't want to rock the boat, and not tell him. But I do hope this guy doesn't abuse your hospitality by being flirtatious.

my husband knows but he lets him because his best friend

almost every guy tries it on with me so im used to it but i dont want someone in my own home like that unless its my husband of course

Gropey? I think you should never be put in this situation. Isn't that assault.

I can certainly understand your feelings on this.

This guy should respect your marriage.

If you don't want a man to touch you, it's your right to not be touched by that guy. Absolutely.

Much more importantly: the guy should respect her. This situation would be just as bad if she were single.

Of course he should respect HER.....that is the crux of it, really.

The situation is bad because her husband doesn't put a stop to the flirtation.

He's the one that has to put a stop to it.

I don't feel that I've neglected her feelings in this.

No, the situation would be bad no matter what.

I can envision another possibility…

To be blunt, your husband sounds like an ass. He clearly has no concept of how wrong this is and has absolutely no respect for your feelings. This other guy shouldn't be allowed anywhere near your home, never mind living in it.

Where did I say the situation wouldn’t be bad, “no matter what”?

It’s bad on all levels.

You said:

“The situation is bad because her husband doesn’t put a stop to the flirtation.”

That’s not why the situation is bad, and as it’s been described, it doesn’t seem like a mere flirtation.

That’s only ONE of the reasons, obviously….this is a situation where it would be easier on her if the husband would intervene.

This is bad, hope you can put a stop to it

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