Why do I still feel like the only one when I'm not ?

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If anxiety is the problem, I seem to feel like the only one on here who has and no one else on social media has the same issue as me because I'm looking at other people's photos of their lives and it looks anxiety-free.

I don't find myself being anxious when I walk down to my local towns or go down to towns a bit further away from where I live. I've never seemed to bother to go up on my own to London. I don't know whether its because I used to visit it more with parents or on school trips. My brain isn't answering the question as to why I'm not anxious going to these places and why I am going to places I haven't been on my own before.

It does feel as though I've wasted my time not being someone who has more firm control on their anxiety and goes to places outside of their comfort zone more often such as going abroad like for example to a beach in Florida.
I say this even though I have been abroad a few times now, abroad not on my own but with family to Krakow in Poland, Rome and Berlin and on a two day cruise to Amsterdam and Antwerp. Anxiety didn't go into overload and prevent me from going then. It still feels as though I didn't go these places because anxiety stopped me from going.

I've never really asked mum, dad, my sister etc to come to a concert to see a group they don't really listen to. I doubt they would come to a Linkin Park concert. Also the few friends I have I wouldn't bother to ask because they are not into doing that thing. My dad and stepmum went to an Elton John gig a while ago but I wasn't keen on going even he is a great musician I'm not really into his music though its not because of anxiety.

I seem to find myself feeling like I've wasted my life missing out on exciting things that I see other ''less-anxious'' people on social media doing like going to a concert. I haven't been to one since 2010. I mean I like music but I've never really bothered to buy a ticket for just myself as I thought it might be less enjoyable being on your own than if you were with someone. Also they seemed to be far away from where I live and in places I've never been to before and that if I went on my own I'd get lost. I remember last year losing my way driving to somewhere and it did kind of stress me out but we found it in the end.

If i was too scared to go somewhere I'd just have a few drinks beforehand

Same here, and have a puff on my ecig and light my essential oil burner with some lavender oil. And maybe have a listen to some relaxed music like this (love this video of San Francisco):

Sweet Pea hugs