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08 Sep 2022, 1:22 pm

I hated how skinny my face is. I hated these deep creases next to my mouth and how scary they looked when I smiled or opened my mouth or how my skin on my cheeks would fold so I got fillers for my nasbolial lines. Now I had a chipmunk mouth but at least those ugly creases were gone. Then months later I got fillers for my temples because I hated my peanut shaped head. Then this summer I got fillers in my upper cheeks and this time they put them around my face including the back of my mandible jaw to smooth out the creases again around my mouth when the filler broke down. Now I want them in my chin because i hate how orange peel it looks and how thin it looks under my bottom lips. Why can't I be happy with my face?

Now I want it next to my eyes and in my brow area. I hate seeing old photos of me from ten years ago. I was so much prettier. I envy women with full faces, even my mom had her full face at this age and she still does but I can see her fat pads shifting down now and she is in her late 60s but most people think she is in her 50s. Meanwhile my dad is all wrinkly and saggy and has deep lines on his face while my mom has none other than jowls and marionette folds and malar folds where her fat pads are shifting and she has lip stick lines.

I hope i don't ruin my face with fillers. My husband keeps telling me I look the same but I lost weight in my face and I think people are lying if they think I'm in my twenties.


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08 Sep 2022, 1:37 pm

It seems a bit ocd. I can critique the way I look too though.



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08 Sep 2022, 6:02 pm

Sounds like some sort of body dysmorphia.

Solution: Get rid of the mirrors in your house. Maybe replace them with a picture something like this like some bars put in their washrooms in lieu of mirrors above the sinks:

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08 Sep 2022, 7:31 pm

League_Girl wrote:
I hope i don't ruin my face with fillers.


Only one way you can guarantee that.


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08 Sep 2022, 9:26 pm

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09 Sep 2022, 12:20 pm

Love yourself, you are a beautiful person.


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09 Sep 2022, 1:01 pm

Aging sucks. I naively thought you look unchanged into your late 40s or 50s but celebs just maintain their looks through skincare procedures; fillers. Botox, lasers. So here I am doing the same and money i make from adult content goes to that.

Now any older adults I see with youthful faces, I wonder if they pay money to keep that good looking ageless face. Sane as when I see old adults with smooth jawline, maybe they had face or neck lifts.


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09 Sep 2022, 1:53 pm

Everyone ages, even celebrities. It's natural and an inevitability.

IMO, celebs/anyone who gets tons of facial work done to avoid the look of ageing when they're middle aged tends to look ridiculous in their old age when their faces look like they're made up of plastic bits here and there refusing to cooperate with the natural aesthetic of the rest of their head and body. Not a good look for most people.

Take a look at Comedian Carol Burnett in this recent picture. She's 89 years old and her face looks like it's made of plastics refusing to melt at the same rates as the rest of her face:

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Not an attractive look, IMO. Way rather see people looking like Mother Theresa than plasticised.

She's in the news because people want her to host SNL. Good thing she's a comedian with that face..


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09 Sep 2022, 2:13 pm

There's this concept of the "hedonic treadmill" meaning that we chase pleasure after pleasure thinking it will make us happy, but pleasure always leads to displeasure in pleasure's absence, so we are always running. Exhausting way to live, no wonder many people are so depressed and anxious.

I don't really believe that happiness is in pleasure or displeasure, in doing or not doing. I think it's the acceptance of what is, detachment of result, and an inner unfolding. Easier said than done in a world that is marketing things to you constantly, but for me it's a good guide to try to remember. I love getting older. Looks are transient, personality is something you can't get an injection of, you only get it from living life, focusing on the world around you, doing things, seeing things.

If you are married to your mirror is it because your life is empty, since your eyes keep drawing only to yourself and your faults? Why not draw your mind to your strengths? I think if you told yourself more about what it is you like about yourself, your mind would learn to focus on other things than negatives. Have you started to believe your human value is to be objectified? But you are not an object. How about doing things for your mind and soul, and not just body?



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09 Sep 2022, 2:23 pm

Do not worry as you are the same person inside regardless of how many wrinkles you have.

Wrinkles are a sign that you have had a lot of baths so you have kept yourself nice and clean, so don-t worry as it is a good sign.


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