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Erjoy29
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08 Sep 2022, 10:34 pm

I am 33. Have my parents. Other family cut off due to their big misunderstanding of autism. They judged me badly. So just my parents. I have my 4 year old kid.

Still single. Quite alone. But I meet a lot of sociopaths and psychopaths. Is that even similar to autism in any way at all? Idk? It is mostly narcissists I meet but a few borderlines. Ever since 18 I keep attracting these people. Im 33 now. I feel like I have to settle at some point: either now or at 40 or 50. It is either being with someone really abusive or being single lifelong. I can’t decide. If I can work with someone a little bit or somewhat, maybe it isn’t so bad.

But I have lived at the same house for 10+ years. I am scared if I will get stalked or attacked despite how kind and compassionate I was to everyone. I am very vulnerable . But what will be will be guess.



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09 Sep 2022, 8:16 am

Being with an abusive person is much worse than being single



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09 Sep 2022, 8:18 am

I feel like you've just had very bad luck.....



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09 Sep 2022, 9:17 am

Sweet Pea hugs


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09 Sep 2022, 7:28 pm

klanka wrote:
Being with an abusive person is much worse than being single


Quoting for truth ^^^

Also, if your child grows up watching you and your partner in an abusive relationship, the kid will internalize that abuse is okay/normal. So they would be inclined to accept abuse from others or abuse others themselves.

That's not even to mention if your unhealthy partner decided to start mistreating your child.

I hope you meet someone kind.


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