Am I disillusioning or alienating people from talking to me?

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I feel like I'm disillusioning or alienating people from talking to me but I don't know for sure. I even feeling like these people are talking about me because of what I write on here or what I used to write on social media. I'm not stupid as do know other people have problems they struggle with and don't tend to talk about it much online.

Often as a Aspie , I have come to getting used to people not necessarily responding well to my engagement in
Discussions . Manners of how you interact with others , Sometimes I think is to blame . Find myself getting alittle excited about a topic , I know of,in great deal. And sometimes a display of knowledge added with exuberance.
Seems to be off putting to people . Especially if I become very detailed .Think I am needing to let others make more input in a conversation. Need to let them ask questions if they are interested .And even
That is no guarantee for a Aspie to have a successful interaction.

Are you talking about your interaction here on WP as well?

I think you are very honest in your posts and I actually find you very likeable because of that, though some people may not like it. I cannot relate to many of the things you say/think but I never find you annoying or offensive. I like honest people like you.

If anything, you compare yourself with others too much. You seem to be obsessed with keeping up with the crowd. I find it very useless, unproductive and frustrating. But still I think you are a good guy.

If it's useless then why do some people try and persuade you to be like them by working around it another way ?

I have said things that might serve to contradict your negative impressions.

You have never responded to me.

It's like you don't believe what I say.

Following an argument I had yesterday, I haven't felt motivated in doing anything for hours until I've spoken to someone else in my family about it but they haven't come back yet and so I've just ended lying on my bed. I only came downstairs for tea earlier and didn't feel like talking and then afterwards went back upstairs in my room again.

there is a "thing" called "rejection sensitive dysphoria" Loads of info on the internet about it, when we are rejected repeatedly we get hyper sensitive to even the chance of it and expect after a while to be rejected. It is yet another form of self protective rigid thinking. If you read, listen to podcasts, or watch videos, you can get more information about this. I had this "thing" for most of my life. It feels very real for those of us trapped in this thinking. Self understanding and self forgiveness help. You might want to talk to a therapist if you think this could apply to you and the constant emotional pain that goes with it

Often associated with ADHD and Autism due to our neurologies and thinking processes.
https://www.healthline.com/health/menta ... tions%20of