Why is a gym always considered for a man's self esteem ?

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I just seem to that for men they only way to get a higher self esteem is too always go the gym. I just seem to see that type of thing being taken by men in nearly any question on Quora about dealing with low self-esteem. I still find myself even on my own initiative not wanting to join a gym. Even walking past one the other day didn't make me want to go in. I've done press ups and using dumbbell weights on occasion and not all the time.

1. It isn't.

2. Physical activity/exercise/work IS fantastic for anyone's self esteem Because it generates testosterone, reduces cortisol (stress hormone), as well as increases feel good neurotransmitters related to mental health; dopamine, norepenephrine, and serotonin.


A gym is NOT always considered for a man's self esteem - but getting physical 100% is. Anyone can get to work at a physical skilled or unskilled labour job, exercise at home, or anywhere outside -> in a park, on a hike, at the beach etc. Some people join team sports, others go for a jog solo, others train together or workout wherever they are doing their thing. People have workouts at the beach, or at the beginning and/or end of hiking trails, or in public parks etc.

Gyms are nothing more than commercial establishments for those who prefer them to other places to get their exercise. Sometimes they can be valuable if you're getting instruction/training from some expert or another. Some people LIKE them for their exercise routine because it's a place with a specific intended purpose.. so they go there, do the thing they committed to doing, shower up and carry on with life. Others, like myself, would rather do physical labour, body weight exercises and outdoor sports & activities than go to a gym. But everyone should get into motion for both their physical and mental well being.

If you say "always" or "never", and there is one exception, the whole statement is false

I guess that it is because, by comparison, staying as home to play video games and surf the Internet 24/7 does nothing for a man's self-esteem.

Some people believe anything that improves one's appearance must be being done for vanity.

I can't think of any men I've ever known who went to a gym. Some were on sports teams so it was a required part of their team training, but that's different from just joining a gym as a personal choice. Nothing against men who do that, but I just don't know any. The men I know who want to improve their fitness and don't play team sports usually do more recreational activities like cycling (not a stationary bike), swimming, skiing, or even weightlifting at home.

Men I know who want to help their self-esteem usually get involved in meaningful social initiatives like acts of charity, public service, volunteerism, going back to school, etc. rather than worrying so much about their appearance. They want to be able to carry a conversation instead of lifting something 3x their weight.

One of my former boyfriends went to the gym a lot because he thought it was fun. Weird.

He had ADHD and was really hyper.

Being involved in activities a person enjoys is always a good idea. I'd be miserable if I was spending hours in a gym every week. I prefer doing other things.