My grandfather is getting euthenasia basically...

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So I am in support of people who are in pain and like wont last getting euthenasia, just didn't know I'd directly be dealing with that particular situation. But my mom called me today to tell me in the next couple of weeks he may be gone via the assisted dying treatment. So trying to figure a way to get one last visit in, as I respect his decision but still would like to say goodbye before he goes. So may try to see if my sister would maybe want to visit him to and perhaps me and my boyfriend could stay over-night at their place...but don't want to impose if they have other things going on, but the couple times we have visited over night with those guys they always say they really enjoyed it and would like to do it more often.

But yeah idk never got too very close to my grandpa...cause idk he always was a bit standoffish, but idk I guess I still love him and am sad he's dying but I can understand why he just wants to do it smoothly and avoid like suffering when he dies. I just think I should still try and get a chance to idk say goodbye...like he knows what he is doing but I think it is important to maybe visit him one last time. Idk sounds like he is sort of done with life, and just wants to pass peacefully without suffering. So I support it but still kind of sad like idk why is he dying now but freaking trump and joe biden are still healthy enough at their ages but idk whatever either way my grandpa is for sure going to be gone in a couple weeks and I think I should say goodbye at least. Idk he has some religious beliefs, and I do not have religious beliefs but I still feel like idk do I say goodbye and wish him luck on the next journey? Cause even though I am athiest I don't think I should say something like 'are you looking forward to the long sleep' Idk I just suppose I want him to know things are going ok for me...cause even if he wasn't ever very affectionate, he did seem to always care like how I was doing. So idk I want him to know i am ok and doing pretty alright before he passes. ANd also just to know people do care about him even if its the end of his life.


So yeah this is my haven thread about my grandpa who I was never that close to, but now that he is at the end of his life I feel a bit bad I never did develop more of a realation with him, but idk he also didn't always seem open to that but still I am sad to see him go.
So yeah its a bit much, to hear of but I am glad my mom told me, just seems like she mentioned it quickly in the call and kept trying to bring up other things instead...so I think she is also more sad about this than she was letting on in the phone calll. So idk me and my boyfriend are maybe thinking of spending a weeked with her to idk give a bit of emotional support cause for sure she is doing the whole acting not upset when of course she is upset, it's her dad who is dying I think she is just trying to be strong...but idk its also ok if she has to let that shield down like she doesn't have to be strong 24/7 like she tries to do.

Last edited by Sweetleaf on 14 Oct 2023, 1:36 am, edited 1 time in total.

If you don’t go then it’s possible you will regret it later.
I do know that sick people get tired of people asking them how they feel.It’s the last thing they want to talk about.
Sorry you all are going through this.

I don't think I would ask him how he feels, I think I would just idk tell him about what I appreciate from him and let him know I am doing ok, so at least he doesn't go with worrying about me. and try to keep it a bit normal like I don't want to throw a pity speech at him, just want him to know I will continue to think about him even after he is gone because idk he did mean something to me and I am sad to see him go.

But nah already got a day off next week to go to some halloween thing with my family but considering the circumstances, I could get another couple days off work....like I am sure 'grandpa is dying and I want to give him a last visit' is a reasonable circumstance to ask for more time off. So then we could do the halloween thing this weekend and also visit him for a goodbye. Cause yeah I am sure my supervisor would understand I just heard this from my mom today and need to get down there asap to give a last visit and so I may need a couple more days off than just the one I had scheduled before to go to the event. But I am sure I can talk to her about it and we can sort it out.

Last edited by Sweetleaf on 14 Oct 2023, 2:44 am, edited 1 time in total.

But I guess this is a challenge of if I really support euthenasia for people or not, and well I feel my grandpa wants to die peacefully and he is worried if he doesn't do assisted death he'd suffer in death, and well he is just done and wants to get it over with...and I cannot really fault him for that if that is the way he truly feels. So idk I guess as sad and painful as it might be if he is done and just wants to go it might be more cruel to keep him alive on tubes and crap than to let him pass peacefully like he wants to do.

Yeah I just didn't know he was considering that, till my mom called today. As messed up as it though I feel bad about this, I felt so much worse about a family cat dying.....but I was more attatched to that cat, so I suppose it makes sense. I feel my emotions are everywhere like why do I feel worse about a family cat dying than a litteral family member. Cause a family cat died not too long ago, and I still feel kind of devestated about that...but I don't feel as bad about my grandpa dying like it's sad but to be honest it does not hurt as much as that cat dying. But probably because I had more of a connection to that cat than that grandparent...but still not like I don't care just kind of sad I was never to get a better connection to my grandpa and now he's done with life and it's too late. But yeah he does not have a specific illness he just is very old and unhealthy and doesn't want to do life anymore.

I just posted a different thread yesterday of how it can be one thing after another...


like goddam my scooter broke down so I had to buy a bicycle to still get to work, some other crap taking an uber to a job interview thinking i could take a bus home, ha ha but the bus service is a joke around here so at that point I was like 'why didn't I just ride my bike, so then I could have just taken that back home, like the buse system sucks in this town but it has tons of bike trails that connect up with each other, its rated one of the best bicycle cities in the U.S.

But it's just I was using an electric scooter and got very used to that, but it's been years since I have really ridden a bike so wasn't sure my first ride should be trying to make it to a job interview on time. I figure I will ride it around a little this weekend to make sure I am comfortable enough to ride it to work on monday.

Then of course my mom calls me today to tell me my grandpa and her dad is getting euthenasia in the next couple weeks...Just can't get a break this month can I.

But this is adulting I suppose and you don't always get a break when you want it. You cannot pause real life the way you can a video game.