How can I stop feeling bad for still living with parents?

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I still can't help but feel like a kid in an adult body because I still live with parents (both are divorced and live with mum and her partner because of where I work) yet like everyone else I go to work, pay towards rent, make my own appointments, clean and tidy my own room, wash my clothes etc but it still sometimes makes me feel less of an adult. I'm feeling this way right now because I'm off work today whereas when I'm working I don't get these thoughts popping into my head.

I don't know currently how many millennials and early gen zers still live with parents or out and own their own properties in the UK. I can't understand why I'm complaining but at the same time I don't really feel really wanting a flat of my own or perhaps a house considering prices run into the thousands.

Don't be too tough on yourself about it, it's definitely true living with parents for longer has become a more frequent occurrence in society today. As to the people who try and put shame on that, boasting about how their parents kicked them out at 16 or whatever, it changes absolutely nothing, different parents have different ways of caring for their offspring. Yours are helping you, and you're helping them too.
I was in the same boat too, I couldn't imagine how I could afford my own place, and buying a house was definitely for other people.
Try and take advantage of the situation; for example, if you have a little spare cash that you'd otherwise spend on "just stuff to spend money on" then put it into a savings account instead.
Eventually I met someone and we started living together.

Since I moved out, all my money I had been building up for so many years just went. If I was still living at home now, I'd probably have saved up like 20,000 pounds by now.

But the thing is, usually once you move out of your parents' house, you don't really want to go back, because you've experienced that independence (unless you move out to a really bad neighbourhood or into an abusive relationship or something).

I am 43. Only one of my parents is still alive and they are in their 70's. I guess once they are dead I won't feel bad for living at home anymore. I can imagine I will feel bad in other ways though. I don't how old the OP is, but the older you get the less you care about what broader society may think of you.

I'm 26 and I definitely feel that guilt for still living with my parents. I don't want to be living with my parents, I'd like to live in a studio flat. Have my own space. Bring dates over.

It's been difficult to hold down a job. Not through a lack of effort. I've certainly attended plenty of interviews. Unfortunately there is a job shortage at the moment.

I've been researching rental options and looking at properties. Even renting a spare room in someone's house might be an option. I'm not opposed to a general house share either. My parents would rather I wait until I can afford to buy, but I don't know just how long that's going to take.

Right now, my life feels pretty stagnant. I've complained about my small town so much that my friends are sick and tired of hearing about it. Still, feeling stuck in a place you don't want to be is not great.

My sister, 31, is moving out this month. I keep wondering if I'll end up following the same pattern, or if I'll be able to move out before I turn 31. Not that there's anything wrong with moving out at that age, it's just...I want to move out as soon as I can.

I lived with my parents until I was 32, so don't feel bad.