Feel like the "stereotypical loser"

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I seem to think I was that person who barely got any likes and comments and even a considerable number friends on a list on Facebook. I also don't seem to get many likes or views or even many messages from people on dating sites/apps. I don't know if it's partly down to how I look, I mean I'm tall, had quite long blonde hair (it's shorter now), I'm not muscular (I only work out at home on occasions but don't really want to be muscular and never interested in hitting a gym).

Personally, I think:
1) A lot of those likes are empty gestures
2) People can manage a limited amount of social information. So, the more friends someone has, the shallower those relationships are in general. I think I read/heard that autistics prefer fewer deeper friendships than many shallower friendships, so it might mean you're being true to yourself.
3) The limited number of messages can also mean you're filtering out a good portion of dates that wouldn't be a good fit for you. It could also mean that your profile is not encouraging people to contact you for whatever other reason (e.g. not enough info, too much info, phrasing that is off-putting, etc.). Maybe you can have a friend look at the profile and give some suggestions.