How do I overcome these thoughts of desperation

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I don't know how I can get over these thoughts of coming across as though I'm "desperate" to be in a relationship rather than just taking time. Rather than motivating me, it un-motivates me as though I am being dictated by a clock in the same way as it maybe does for women and I don't feel like hurrying up with it. A part of me doesn't want to be desperate but it's hard to not feel self imposed pressure because I'm seeing peers of the same age or a bit younger in relationships, married and so on. I'm on a dating app but I don't actively go on it because I'm doing hobbies, at work etc. I therefore feel bad for not using it thinking everyone else is more active on them than I am and has more luck.

I don't know cause my mind is fried right now, but I get it. I'm not interested in any romantic relationship, but feel pressured to be in one. I need to figure out a relationship with myself first. How can I answer questions on a date if I don't know the answer? Say they ask me for my favorite anything...I wouldn't be able to answer because I don't know.

Oh! Circuses have monkeys. Your circus works best when it's only your monkeys in the circus. If other people put their monkeys in your circus, the show gets ruined because the monkeys don't know your show or they sabotage it on purpose for a competing circus. If you feel pressured, that's someone else's monkeys in your circus. Kick them out of your circus. Only let chris1989 monkeys in your circus. To do this, you have to slightly lean back, hold your hands at shoulder-level with palms facing forward, raise your eyebrows, and say, "Not my monkeys; not my circus."