I hate being wrong all the time

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As an Aspie, I used to think I was right all the time, but now I've begun to think the opposite. Every day my friend and family and other people always end up saying to me "That's not right" or "No one does that". It's depressing. It's so depressing to never do anything right and always be abnormal and to never be correct.

Quick example: Right now I want to talk to my friend online, but he's busy studying for an exam and basically said "No one else would bother me when I say I'm busy" and he's right. I'm in the wrong...again. Everyday, it's a new thing.

It's gotten to the point where I have no motivation to even do anything anymore. Why bother? Why go ride the bus tomorrow? I'll probably do something and someone will think: "Why is he doing that? He's not supposed to be doing that" and yup, I'll be in the wrong again. I need some advice.

I'm sorry to have my first post to this forum be so depressing, but I can't take it anymore. I need advice.

I can relate. When I was a teenager, I truly believed I was correct and other people were the problem. It came in waves of shock to me as I slowly began to truly understand that it was a just me thing. Not that I have all that figured out or anything, I still do things that are wrong without knowing I messed up until it is too late. All people mess up though. I think it comes down to being able to give and accept forgiveness. I try to be forgiving when people do crappy things to me, so I certainly expect them to extend the same courtesy to me.

The way I see it, working with people can enrich friendships. Your friend, for example... you know now that they do not want to be disturbed when they are busy. You can respect that next time and that shows you are being a good friend. I should hope that your friend would recognize that you displaying that action reflects your appreciation of them as a person. The way I see it, working with people can enrich friendships and make them stronger. I try to see things like this as learning and growing experiences. It makes the bumps in the road easier for me to deal with anyway.

Sorry to hear things are not okay now. I hope this passes for you quickly.

While I was sort of stuck in my thoughts as a kid, it was rather my brother who always thought he was right and still today he thinks it and pouts when proven wrong or tries to twist the facts to his favor. I rather experienced radical changes over the years, going from binary certain thinking to criticizing my own ideals.

First, you may want to think about it when people say "that isn't right". not right from who's perspective? i have come to realize that NT's think that their way is always the correct way because they all do it that way. this doesn't mean that you are wrong, it means they think you are wrong. think about the situation and realize, you may be doing correct just not the way they see it. as for not going out because of people thinking you may be doing something wrong, what does it matter what they think?