Evil Competition and Friends

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I hurt so much right now. I actually miss the hospital where everything was predictable and safe. Why are people so ignorant and cruel? Don't they want to learn? Do they prefer to be ignorant? How can they tolerate it?
How do you tolerate such cruelty? People are horrible! I have 1 friend and my husband and even my friend is off and on. She shows off in front of me in areas that I've been recently complimented. If I receive a compliment on an English paper, all the sudden she's showing off any writing ability or compliment she has...to the point she is being hurtful in trying to put me down. I am no longer interested in friends. This happens every time. I even have to watch my husband. He gets competitive too...but not to the point it is bad. Why do people feel they need to "compare" to me? It is unfair. It makes me feel horrible. I really wish I could become a hermit. I am tired of this...what can I do? Is it my fault? I do not share my grades...but they peek over my shoulder; they quiz me as to my grades or a teacher will announce I got the highest grade. I cannot help this! What do I do?

Annabel Lee

I have that same feelling; why do people feel they have to compete with me?

I've been wondering if I give off some type of expression that makes me appear as if I am looking down on people? Have you noticed the competition occuring at anyone particluar time?

No, it's nothing to do with you.

Some people (since I don't know any Aspies IRL, I don't know if it's common among us too or if it's just an NT social competition) have really weak egos, they feel they are nothing if anyone else is getting attention, so they feel they have to compete or stay nothing. I have a really strong ego, so I don't understand that kind of thinking. If you're my friend, the occasional success for me should be a cause for rejoicing for you, if you actually are on my side as a friend should be. You should be happy for me when I get a compliment, like I am for you when you get one. But, they don't feel that way about me. I usually dump people like that, if you don't feel happy when I do well, if you seem happier when I do badly at something, you don't deserve my friendship. You don't wish me well, even though I wish you well.

Such people are just too self-centered to be anyone's friend.

KaliMa

i hope you start feeling more confident soon.