Can't stop crying over rejection

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I don't know what's wrong with me. After several conversations with him and agonizing over whether I should do it, I told this guy, who is an exchange student from France and takes a class with me that I had feelings for him. He was quite shocked since he is much younger than I am and had no idea I liked him. Unfortunately, he told me he's going back home to France in six months so we wouldn't be able to have a relationship.

This is my first crush in seven years and this has all hit me so hard I can't stop crying and feel absolutely hopeless about ever having a man want me. He is such a kind person whom everyone likes and is very popular on campus. He never wants for friends, though he's only been here for three months. For me, it's a complete struggle to even say "Hi" to people much less make friends and I guess that's part of what attracted me to him. English is his second language so I never had to worry about sounding like I'm ret*d when I lose my words while taking to him since he does the same trying to speak English.

Why can't I have the good men in my life, for once?

I can completely relate here, after it happens enough you will forget how to cry, not sure if thats a good thing though

I'm sorry this happened. Eventually, you'll meet a guy who will be perfect for you.

Tim

Man, that sucks. Sorry that happened to you. I always fall for guys who don't want me, and have guys after me that I wouldn't give the time of day to. Hope it passes, soon.

Sorry you're going through this. I'm in a similar boat and it sucks. Try to distract yourself and keep busy.

Some things are so cosmic, chocolate is the only answer.

Treat yourself well, and someone else will.

He only told the truth, and if he had used you for six months, it would be much worse.

He cared, he did right by you, you will see it.

But for now, chocolate.

::nods:: and i sometimes find a nice long hot shower helps too.

im am cosrry? vacatio/school in drance?

that's why i like dating foreigners... you take time to work on understanding eachother....

I know this is out of the loop in this thread but what kind of age difference are we talking about?

I've experienced that type of rejection, many times in my life. Some Halloween candy and some warm tea or coffee might help.

I know...and that's why I liked him so much. You simply don't see many guys where I live who aren't complete neanderthalic idiots yelling, "Hey baby!" or hissing at you to get your attention.



It was big enough, that's all I can say.



Uggh, I do, too. Of course, the ones whom I wouldn't touch with a ten-foot pole.....while wearing a haz-mat suit will come on to me for days.
I feel a little "saner" after a couple days of crying cleansing my already stressed out nerves. Though I do worry I will always attract guys I don't want and repel the good ones. They say like attracts like. So if I attract losers and the good guys think I'm invisible, what does that say about me?

Good description. I have often asked myself the same thing. I consider myself to be a decent, caring person, with no bizarre defects, and yet all I seem to attract are the worst kinds of losers. By this, I mean guys who are not even capable of intelligent conversation, (which is always a plus, for me.) I'm no snob, but neither will I go dumpster diving.

If it makes you feel better I'm too withdrawn to feel able to step foot into a classroom.

I met a girl in real life last year, she was very socialized as I put it, so I was never romantically interested. But she was so tolerant, let me always be myself, and let me interact one on one rather than being in a group which overwhelms me. The friendship felt good despite our differences. She went on to get pregnant with a guy she had known about four months, and we gradually lost touch since then. Though I treasure what I had which was a rare thing for me, the loss still hurts months later. Another chance of being able to talk and cooperate with someone on a close level like that sometimes seems like a pipe dream, much less an actual girlfriend. Nothing else in life is giving it meaning.

I'm completely hopeless, too when it comes to talking to people. And I would dream of getting to know a wise, intelligent person like nirrti who has similar disadvantages in social situations. Realistically, the only shot I have is to try to befriend someone who is very extroverted, good at carrying conversation and unfortunately these people usually live life in a faster, busier lane and it's very difficult to sustain these relationships.

I got the opposite problem somewhat... I can't cry over rejection... weird stuff.

My sympathies for that.