The end of my rope.....

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My wife's lost all patience with me. She says I'm like a lab rat in a psychology experiment, always making the same silly mistakes. Over and over again, never learning from it's mistakes

I can't live without her. I don't know what to do.

please elaborate ..is she leaving you?

People on the spectrum aren't easy to live with, but nobody is perfect. Have you both sat down & just talked about aspergers?

Why don't you discuss the mistakes you've been making and make an effort to not do it anymore?

Eventually, you will discover that rope is actually longer than you think. Have you sat down and talk things over with your wife...and really listen? It is important to keep the lines of communication open.

Indeed, anybody with an ASD is hard to live with, but thats still little excuse, relationship means compromise, both sides!! While she needs to understand your specific needs, and perhapse differences, their is also things you must do to meet her in the middle.

Perhapse if you were more specific on your situation we could give some advice.

Its never been easier for Aspies to meet potential partners thanks to the net.

Being married is hard, and I've been in that same situation twice. There are some things that you can fix, because they're easily communicated, like doing the dishes or buying flowers and gifts, and then there are things that you're just supposed to know, which are the hard parts. All I could think to do was earnestly tell her how I felt about her and listen to what she said, which is really all anyone can do. It's tough, because there are some things that I'll never be able to do "normally," and that worries me.

The only thing you can really do is communicate. Tell her your frustrations and why you think you make the same mistakes. She might think that you're just being stubborn or obstinate, and she needs to know that's not the case. When you feel able to and the situation is right for it, express your love for her in the most genuine manner you know. If you do these things, you can at least know that you've really tried.

Are you anxious around her? Or anxious that you might lose her due to your annoying mistakes? That could be waht's causing you to make the mistakes.