Are all aspies this weak?

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From all the pain Ive endured like most people here have Im sure (I think?), I feel like I havent strengthened at all from any of it. Most people would grow a tough emotional shell but for me Im still tender and easily hurt. Is there a condition name for this or is it just an aspie thing? Is anyone else like this?

Last edited by username88 on 22 Oct 2007, 4:58 pm, edited 1 time in total.

If you can survive all the crap that happens to you, that means you are strong enough to deal with it, no matter how weak you feel.
It's OK, dude. You're doing fine

We're very weird...
Some things I swear I do an average NT just couldn't do...
Other things I swear said average NT would do that I would struggle intensely to get to grips with...

Aspies aren't weak buddy. I'd say we're strong... but then again - another generalization...

It's important to know and I know you do - we're unprotected by society to a much larger degree.

It's not weakness, it's humanity. There are people who who "develop a hard shell", plenty of whom post on WP - they're the sarcastic, abusive and embittered misanthropes who in the face of adversity become less human. Life IS difficult, painfull and full of woe for a lot of us. The solution? Well after 40 years, I don't feel I'm anywhere closer to finding it - but I'm not giving up. Your not on your own. Best Wishes - Z.

I know, I just hate being so sensitive.. Thanks for replying though. It was just something thats been on my mind for a while.

I can relate SO well! I am easily hurt too. And a lot of the times, I get down about it... like, "What's WRONG with me?" But... I know that it is also a gift. I can play music much more sensitively than most other musicians, for example, and I see and hear things other people can't. I think the hard part for me is feeling so ALONE about being sensitive, so I am really glad you posted this... It's nice to hear that someone else feels the same way.

Growing a "tough emotional shell" is a last ditch effort to survive (biologically). It is also the fast track to making life worthless for yourself. I have known people who have done it, and they seem so lost (though they won't admit it). Some turned to drugs, one turned to Satanism (and said screw the world), one tries to find his only comfort by paying for sex (so he doesn't have to care.) All of them are more miserable than ever.

Strength isn't about things being easy. Strength is the power to keep trying when thing are hard! Just like courage isn't the lack of fear (that's just foolish), it's facing your fear (which will still be there) and doing what needs to be done despite it.

Keep trying. That is strength. And if you feel like you're loosing, ask for some help (like you just did). Everyone has to.

The people who got tricked into trapping themselves in a hard emotional shell are the weak ones. Don't stop feeling things! But if you're depressed, try to list all the things that make you happy. You will be absolutely fine once the depression is gone.

I know this all too well.
I have so often wished I could just shut off my emotions altogether and not care nor feel.
It just doesn't seem to work.

Strength and weakness is all relative. If I want something bad I can be strong and push through my pain. However, when I am forced to do something I really don't care about I am weak. When I don't feel like something is worthwhile to me there's no way I can be strong.

An good analogy for me would be running on a treadmill verses climbing a mountain. Climbing a mountain is easier because at least you feel like you are going somewhere even if it is tiring. Running on a treadmill, on the other hand, you are going nowhere. I think when I get depressed life is like running on a treadmill. I don't feel there is any point in trying to act tough when it doesn't seem like I'm going anywhere. It's futility more than pain that crushes the spirit.

Whenever you think losing your sensitivity makes you tough, think of Mother Theresa. She was a great example of how people have to be tough to stay sensitive and compassionate in this world.

hmm when I think about how many people have sunk so low and just given in it does make me realize how strong many of our kind are...

sensitivity does not make u weak. u have made it this far which makes u one tough person.
btw i feel sensitive too.