My feelings haven't been hurt this badly in a long time....

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Ok, so my best female friend (who I also happen to like more than a friend), has been down lately. So tonight, I drive to the store, buy her favorite, expensive Ben + Jerry's Ice Cream, and drive to her house (at night, in the fog, on the freeway) to give to her.
I do this horribly nice gesture for her, because I care. All I get is an "oh.....ok.....thanks?" in person, then this on AIM when I get home:
Her: i hate boys right now. no offense, but it's true. i just hate them and question the motives of each and every one.
Me:even I?
Her:even you. i question all of you.
Her:none of you are sincere.
Me: whaaat?
Her:nope. i don't believe any of you.
Her:i trust ashton, cause he's like a girl and he has a girlfriend.
Her:and my dad.
Her:and my other guy relatives. that's it.
So.....I'm pretty down now....

I'd say not to let it keep hurting...

Just step back for a few days and then check in again.
It may be that she was really hurt by some other guy or had a close friend or relative who was (and I mean emotionally hurt).

Sometimes all it takes is one incident to turn up the bitter feelings inside a person.
Hopefully she'll come back down and stop stereotyping and hating.

What you did was a really nice gesture on your part... you should give yourself a pat on the back for that one.
It was a kind thing to do!

She's being a typical estrogen-driven dumb*** right now. I don't know what it is, but I highly suspect it's in the water supply.

There is yet to be one single female I've met, Aspie or no, which is rational enough to tolerate dealing with for long periods of time. They think everything is the fault of men, and only men, from the threat of global thermonuclear war, to them having such messy and complicated reproductive organs.

It's literally their job in life, apparently, to bash men, and then whine to everyone about how "evil" men are when we stand up to them.

And as another odd factor in the male/female relationship, the attractiveness of a guy is directly proportional to how abusive and controlling they are of girls, and their manhood's size. So, if you act nice to them, all they do is whine and complain. However, if you slap them around, and treat them like dirt, apparently they like that.

So, just realize that all women are terminally insane.

Hmmm... I wonder if shes responding to you doing that nice thing for her. That was very nice of you, but I tend to find I can only understand myself and everyone else is very complex, she might have interpereted your kindness for trying to come onto her or something.

I guess if I was in your situation i would just tell her that you were simply trying to help out and do something nice and that perhapse what she said to you was inappropriate as you did a very nice thing for her and all she could respond was by saying that basicly she does not trust ya. Maby give her a few days and see what she has to say then. Hmm... maby this is bad advice, ill admit I dont have much experience with women. I wish ya luck Cyanide.

Cyanide, it sounds like your friend is just down on the world becasue she's been let down. Don't take it personally; she's just hitting out and sometimes even friends get caught in the cross fire when any of us are throwing a moody. She thinks enough of you to confide her feelings to you - if she really didn't like you, I suspect she would have just ignored you even on-line.

I would try to look at the point that she did trust you enough to tell you that she was having trust problems. I know that sounds confusing but I can really relate to what she said, I could unthinking do the same in that kind of situation. And it hurts not being to trust people you love and respect for no other reason then, the fact that u can not tell if anyone is lying, faking it, playing with you.

She trusts her farther and a guy she thinks of as a girl, its really not you, she has a issue with trusting men, it probably comes from somewhere, it is another thing that now know about her that will make u a better friend.

she may have been trying to explain away, her behavior when u came over with the ice cream. thinking u may have nosiest her being, distant, timed, defensives or whatever

It could also be that she is menstruating right now. Many women act this way at a particular time of the month. Try again in a few days.

GoatMan - you should change your sig if you're going to talk like that. There's nothing gentlemanly about what you said. It's hateful, bigoted and completely irrational, if not outright psychotic (i.e., insane). Not to mention hypocritical - it's OK to bash women because they bash men? And that makes you superior how?

Pandabear - please, please, please, refrain from making stupid comments like that. Dismissing a woman's feelings because of her "hormones" is just as bad as dismissing her for being "terminally insane." It's unfounded, it's uncalled for, and it's bigoted.

OP - LOTS of people have trust issues, both men and women (cf., Goatman and his misguided rage). Just don't take it personally. You are taking it persoanlly, because you clearly what a more personal relationship with her. But obviously, she's not a good candidate for that right now. It's a tough lesson, and I'm sorry, but bottom line, it's not you. So don't feel bad. Just let her have her space and let her vent, and in time hoepfully she'll work it out.

See this is why we hate NT girlz

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