Why?

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Why do people have children if they don't want them?
Why do people have kids, thus forcing those children to be dependent on them, then remind them of their dependence every day with phrases like "if you don't like it (if you don't like me belittliing you all the time) you can get out. (No I fukcincg can;t)"? (f**k it, can't be bothered editing my typing)
Why do peple want to eblittle their own cjohildren? Are theu y tahta desperate for a pwoer trip?
Why?
I don't understand.

I have to ask myself that same question. I guess that most parents are shallow NTs.

yes, that breaks my heart .....a medium once said i was" a universal mom", and I really do ache for the children who have no one to protect them,love them, etc.........

My parents were very abusive.

They also admitted that they didn't want me - I was a mistake.

I often wonder why my mother didn't just have an abortion. Why bring a 'mistake' into the world and then criticise and beat it on a daily basis for existing, and for (through no fault of my own) happening to be autistic.

Surely all expectant parents have to realise that there is always a chance their child might be born with a disability of some kind - but that doesn't make it okay for them to treat us badly.

Why don't you get some friends why don't you get a job why are you so stupid if you don't like it if you do anything they'll send you to a children's home where you'll be made to work all day and they'll beat you, YOU KNEW WHAT YOU WERE DOING, YOU c**t. All the time, I hear this. My brother did too, my father is partly to blame for his suicide. (Aren't you proud, father dearest?)
Tonight in the bath it would have been so easy to slip under the surface of the water and stay there, but I didn't want to let him win. I've heard that drowning is a peaceful way to go. I imagine that all ways would be peaceful, in the end...

Indeed, i always had the same questions as the OP. It seems people get caught up in their sexual lives with their partners, definatly not ready for or sometimes even expecting children. And so it happens, it takes 1 time, and now you have a dependent. They never set aside money, or changed their lifestile, or got a better place, or even planned, they let it happen and the child now serves as proof of love, but now what?

I want a child myself, eather thru reproduction or adoption, single or married, i dont care, i know someday when I sell this place and get a better place, better job, mature a little more and start saving some money instead of investing every dime in this place or the car. When the time comes, and i know in a few years it will, I know I will be ready, and I wish more people would have this mentality, it takes years to prep, im 25 and feel another 5 years is probably minimum.

When I someday have a kid, I want everything to be as good as possible, if im not working, im with the kid, my life will be devoted to the kid, or providing for him, and his well being goes above mine. To do this I need a bigger and better house, better wealth resources, and I need to pay off my debts.

My parents planned prior to me and my sis being born, as a result I had a good life, I was happy (mostly) growing up and was very fortunate to have eveything I wanted and plenty of oppertunities (which I blew). I want to provide the same someday, i want that kid to have the best childhood I can provide, I want to do things right, and learn from my parents mistakes.

I feel someday I can make a loving husband and excellent father, but no women has yet to give me the chance, even my current 'GF' seems to have given up on me i fear... sucks for her!

I'm sad to say that your experiances aren't all that uncommon. I used to frekwent a forum that had people like you in it, and more. (why they closed it is beyond me. It sucks that it's gone! )

Most often I had read about mean mothers, sometimes nasty fathers... occationaly both. I think "sheesh. How do you people manage such a difficult life. I wouldn't have made it dealing with all that everyday."

Getting subtle blame, insults, and 'jokes' daily as a child are still enough trouble for me in adult life. I don't understand abusive people. They seriously think they always go first don't they.

You need a license to drive a car, a license to fish and hunt, a license to cut someone's hair as a hair stylist...there are so many
things one cannot do unless you have a license. Yet, nothing is required to be a parent...and prepare you for the toughest job in
the world!

I had parents like that. The funny thing is that they bought EVERYTHING that I asked for. I NEVER begged or pleaded or anything. I would just say "Wow! That's cool!" The next thing I know I would discover they bought it for me. Then my Dad called me "Spoiled!" all the time, and looked down at me for it. Ummm . . . You're scolding and ridiculing me for your insistence on being nice to me. . . That's kindof weird. If you're really so upset about it just STOP BUYING ME STUFF!

My parents would have been a materialist kid's best dream, but they didn't give me what I wanted, what I needed: my dignity.

I will NOT let him win.
I will stay alive and succeed. So there.

I try to sleep, and images from the last fight that we had flash through my head.
This is not good.