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18 Nov 2007, 4:57 am

i ALMOST made it through a day without crying over my stupid obsession.

but now that it's 5am and im sobbing... im gonna go pass out.

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18 Nov 2007, 12:09 pm

Not sure if this applies, but I'm going to tell you the same thing I told my best friend the other day. Emotionally unavailable people are unavailable because of their own issues, not because of us. From what I remember you saying, you've been dealing with this person for a long time. I know it's hard (trust me, I know), but at some point you have to accept reality, give up, and walk away for your own sanity.

Any person who triggers you to cry on a continual basis is not worth your time and mental energy. Go find yourself someone who makes you happy and who feels lucky to have you in their life.

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18 Nov 2007, 12:20 pm

Spot17 wrote:

Any person who triggers you to cry on a continual basis is not worth your time and mental energy. Go find yourself someone who makes you happy and who feels lucky to have you in their life.

QFT

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18 Nov 2007, 12:22 pm

I'm with shadexii and Spot17 on this one. It sounds like this relationship is harming you.

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18 Nov 2007, 12:45 pm

after a while our obsession isn't even about the person we have fixated on, it is about the adrenaline and endorphins dumped into our blood streams we get addicted to when we sob our little hearts out and being habituated to the feelings we get when we just obsess.

Believe me I have had plenty of opportunities to figure this one out!

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18 Nov 2007, 4:44 pm

Spot17 wrote:

Any person who triggers you to cry on a continual basis is not worth your time and mental energy. Go find yourself someone who makes you happy and who feels lucky to have you in their life.

ahhh...if life were only that easy.

and sedaka? if you ever want someone to cry with, i'm probably as bad as you.
let me know next time you wanna make some puddles....

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18 Nov 2007, 5:18 pm

sodarktheshadows wrote:

Spot17 wrote:

Any person who triggers you to cry on a continual basis is not worth your time and mental energy. Go find yourself someone who makes you happy and who feels lucky to have you in their life.

ahhh...if life were only that easy.

Not always easy to accept, but it is possible. It can be far more difficult to then act.

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18 Nov 2007, 5:42 pm

My sympathies... it sucks to obsess over things that hurt you. I do hope you'll be alright. *thumbsup*

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19 Nov 2007, 9:50 am

pbcoll wrote:

I'm with shadexii and Spot17 on this one. It sounds like this relationship is harming you.

He's not worth it, truly. If you can switch to thinking of something yukky every time you start thinking of him, it might cut through the obssession.

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19 Nov 2007, 9:52 am

Sedaka wrote:

i ALMOST made it through a day without crying over my stupid obsession.

but now that it's 5am and im sobbing... im gonna go pass out.

Damn, that sucks!

I cried last night, but I almost never cry.

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