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Graelwyn
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16 Dec 2007, 1:17 am

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16 Dec 2007, 1:36 am

think the lack of eating is affecting me cos my heart keeps jumping everywhere. :(



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16 Dec 2007, 1:49 am

*hugs Graelwyn* Everything alright? Obviously it isn't... Anything this Berserker can do to help? Also, I missed you. Yep, I was RedMage. I'm still very grateful to you for getting me Final Fantasy VIII.



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16 Dec 2007, 1:51 am

Hmm... I know this has happened to friends of mine before. Where basicly they would meet someone and they would say they liked them and that they would be together when the guy was actually being cruil and making fun of the person that liked them. If this is the case I would not waste my time with someone as horrible as this, I hope its not the case tho. If it is then this has the potential to really hurt, when people do this to others, I could not imagine being in a situation like this, many do, I was fortunate enough not to be, and like I said, I hope its not that, aside from being hurt on the way or whatever thats worst case scinario probably, but whatever happens I hope you find closure and that in the end you find what you are looking for and will theirfore be happy :)


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16 Dec 2007, 1:53 am

I know how you feel. I had a similar experience with someone I'd been close to for two years, we had even talked about marriage. She had started a relationship with someone else about a year before she actually told me about it. Things between us got very bad very quickly, I was angry with her for the first time, and only a couple days later she broke off all contact saying she never wanted to be with me, being "damaged" as I was. I never got closure, and my "support network" of friends completely fell apart, leaving me to deal with this pain completely alone.

It's been nearly a year now, and I still hurt. It's not as bad as it was at first, but it's still there. I just force myself to live through it. I sleep at night with the help of medication, and spend my days playing games.

As for your situation, I can't say why he's disappeared or that he's really gone, but that may be the case. When the time has come that you need to move on, mourn the loss of the relationship and broken dreams and find a way to get on with life.

I hope you're able to handle this better than I have been. I've been approached several times, but I'm more than a little jaded and end up rejecting anyone who shows an interest in me.



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16 Dec 2007, 2:06 am

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16 Dec 2007, 2:29 am

You are loved by many, a few people are false, but you have a lot of real.



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16 Dec 2007, 2:33 am

Graelwyn wrote:
Sorry I deleted my original post, I felt stupid for being so pset over this.

thankyou for the hug.


to recap, I was in an internet relationship with someone from here for over 7 months culminating in a trip arranged for him to spend xmas with me...he was to come november but his mother cancelled, I was led to believe.

We had our fights but we got through them. We both have issues, but I thought we were both willing to work on them.
Most of the time, we shared a lot.. affection, our days events, our feelings, our plans...so many of our talks revolved around a future together.

But he set off for the flight here on friday morning, after a brief hitch with his father..and never got here.
I last heard from the airport. To see he was at the airport and a bai bai.
Nothing since.

I waited and waited...checked my phone as he was to call when he arrived.
Checked my email as he said he would email from boston and London.

And he never came. he had promised he would. And had promised that if he couldnt make it, he would let me know and stay in contact.

I found he had been posting on a board just an hour after he had said he was at the airport before boarding...

I messaged him. no reply. I have emailed and emailed, and begged, and asked for some sort of closure if he is leaving me...he promised he would let me know if he ever decided to end things.

Nothing. I am left like this. And to make it worse, I still love him a great deal.

Anyone who was around at that time saw we were quite close here.

I cannot fathom this... it doesnt sound like my situation, sooper.. I mean, we were, I thought, always honest with each other.

I admit I can be difficult to be with, but... this has hit me hard as it was so unexpected.

I was firmly convinced he loved me. And I am by nature a wary and untrusting person.


I understand and I know it must have been hard for you. I know I'm new and don't know you well but if I can ever help you feel better in anyway please let me know.



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16 Dec 2007, 2:42 am

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16 Dec 2007, 2:46 am

Graelwyn wrote:
I cannot fathom this... it doesnt sound like my situation, sooper.. I mean, we were, I thought, always honest with each other.

I admit I can be difficult to be with, but... this has hit me hard as it was so unexpected.

I was firmly convinced he loved me. And I am by nature a wary and untrusting person.


That's exactly how it was for me. I was completely honest with her, and I thought she was with me. She knew about my AS from day one and actually found it fascinating. We started having difficulty staying in touch when she started things with the other guy, but she told me, and I believed her, that she was just busy with school and getting over being sick and all. Not a day went by where she didn't say she loved me.

At this point, I'm not really expecting to ever find someone trustworthy again, but I haven't completely dismissed the possibility. Part of me still believes that it's worth it to put all my energy into making someone happy, despite the possibility for more heartbreak.



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16 Dec 2007, 2:52 am

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16 Dec 2007, 2:53 am

Graelwyn wrote:
How can I ever believe that again?

i dont know how to comfort myself.


Because Graelwyn, you help many with your insights. We are your friends. No matter what your 'friend' does (or doesn't), this remains constant; that you are special to us. I know, for certain, you have shown me kindness when I am not well. Likewise.

Graelwyn, have a happy holiday :heart:


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16 Dec 2007, 2:58 am

LabPet wrote:
Graelwyn wrote:
How can I ever believe that again?

i dont know how to comfort myself.


Because Graelwyn, you help many with your insights. We are your friends. No matter what your 'friend' does (or doesn't), this remains constant; that you are special to us. I know, for certain, you have shown me kindness when I am not well. Likewise.

Graelwyn, have a happy holiday :heart:


Thankyou labpet, you too



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16 Dec 2007, 3:21 am

Perhaps Asperger's is showing itself and it's all too much for him; perhaps he's ashamed with himself and why he cannot do "normal" things; perhaps he cannot face his own difficulties, so he lives under some lies--lies that would be the truth if he wasn't who he was (he tells you what he'd like to do if he was "normal"). Perhaps he was abducted by aliens. Perhaps he cannot confront you with his "failings" due to his love for you and the shame for who he is and why he lied. Perhaps, perhaps and perhaps.

It might not be as completely negative [on his side] as it first seems, there's many paths.



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16 Dec 2007, 5:47 am

Daniel makes a good point, you really don't know what's going on over there, it could be anything. He might have simply forgot, I know I forget things all the time, or get things mixed up, even really important things like Birthdays or where I'm supposed to be, or when something is meant to happen.


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16 Dec 2007, 1:03 pm

{{{Hugs}}} Graelwyn :(


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