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Tonight we had a busy show..and I was um....doing my best....we have zany extroverted aspie-ish lady who sometimes helps out and she was there tonight...I was doing fine...till the sexy young girl who likes to dance around and flirt with everyone shows up.....and then I sorta went into shutdown mode....irrationally panicing about her flirting with Flakey and Flakey flirting with her....especially since he was really drunk and obnoxious and therefore more prone to do that kinda stuff...He was saying that she would be really great to have as an employee and expressing how good for business it is to have young attradtive femalse around to attract the male customers....and many other tactless comments besides....hooray for alcohol....From the minute she walked through the door there was a dark cloud over my head...meanwhile everyone around me seems to be having a wonderful time.

Anyway....just bummed that I can;t ever just let go and not care and have a good time....I wish alcohol could release my inhibitons instead of making me feel really depressed...Wish Flakey would not take me for granted so much....wish i could detach myself....wish I didn;t feel so stinking alone......

ok...end of rant....

My heart goes out to you each time I see you posting about these things.

My honest aspie bluntness (forgive me) wants to tell you ... please leave this man. Your feelings of jealousy are normal and in the case of Flakey, they've been proven justified. You don't trust him because he isn't trustworthy.

Reminds me of a guy I once dated. You will get over it. This person is going to keep flirting and you are going to keep blaming the female. It's really his responsibility to make sure you are doing okay because he's with you.

I really hope you feel better. It's hard to take the first step out.

He didn't flirt with her....

he was nice enough not to do it...she was waggling her tail all over the place and trying to invade my personal space and hanging all over lots of different guys (she is very attractive...model-esque...laughs alot..hugs everybody...tosses her sexuality around everywhere)...and even though he was quite drunk...he didn't flirt with her...

as I said, i was irrationally panicking...I associate her with the girl who was his mistress because she used to be her roommate...

She made a big show of helping clean up some of the feathers that the band had sprayed all over the stage...that was when Flakey was drunkenly talking about employing her...but he was drunk and didn't mean it....

Flakey has a bit of the Aspie in him himself....and it often takes the form of extreme tactlessness....but he is not an evil person...and if I were to uproot myself from the place where I am, I would have nobody but my parents....or complete isolation...or other bars

Poopy, you can do better than Flakey. Try MADDuck, eh? He'd never do that.

Ms. Lungstuffing:

I agree with Anna. It might be hard to let go, but you're ripping yourself up. Is that really healthy? It is none of my business, but you need someone who will love you and protect you as fiercely as you love and protect them. I'm sorry if that's not what you want to hear, but I've been following this situation now for awhile, and you've got to take steps. Please, babe, before you go nuts!

And I want to tell you something (again, personal opinion). I've seen your picture and your video. When it comes to the "sexy" department, you've got nothing to apologize for. From this guy's point of view, you're hot. Go find a guy who appreciates you.

btdt

sorry the post in the other topic was more about this thread and to provide more background. When I was with my girlfriends I don't put myself in bad situations if someone flirts with me I do not return the favor and whether or not he's drunk is really not an excuse for such. If he cannot trust his reasoning when he drinks then he needs to stop drinking. I intentionally avoid bad situations for instance I have a friend whos bisexual (she says shes a lesbien but we've almost hooked up between relationships I was having.) and she always wants me to sleep over her place and stay around but I don't do it because how would it look if my gf at the time would see me sleeping over the house of another woman whether or not anything intimate occured. So I avoid the situation if I see her I make sure to leave a bit early we usually hang places where theres alot of people so noone can say you were around long enough to sleep with her and etc. If he respects the relationship he would do these thnigs automatically ithout having to be told or reminded.