I am so sick of peoples having a go at me about my looks

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I hate it when people tell me i am overweight or my shoes are ugly or my hair is not done properly or my clothes are stupid.
what makes it worse is that it is my mum that takes potshots at me mostly and my sister too(one of them). not all the time but enough to upset me. grrr
anyway i hate the obession with looks anyhows, don't see the point in obsessing over it.
does this happen to u?

The next time she does it, scratch her on the cheek; make sure you scar her well! Then take potshots of her looks. Just wash your hands after and when the cops come, say you didn't do it.

Behave as if you didn't care.
Eventually you won't.

It's happened to me. Mostly by my #2 brother, who I thankfully no longer live with, and my ex-stepmother, whose only concern was how I made her look.

And make sure you clean under the nails.

People who dwell on outward appearances, and who make these sorts of comments, are saying a great deal more about themselves than they are about you.

I used to get comments all the time, from my mother, who is a narcissist, and my half-brother, who is just like her. For the longest, I thought that I was hideous. By the time I got a sense of who I really was, I realized that I no longer cared as much as I did before, about what others thought of me. Now, if someone tells me I am gorgeous, I wonder what they're up to.

Anna:
Oh, COME ON!

Tweety_fan

It's what's inside that counts. Don't trust mirrors either. And least of all, don't listen to your family. You have to be who you are.

Btdt

My mother in law did that to my wife when she was little. It made things worse for her and ruined her self esteem. She's never really recovered from it even though she's been out of home for about 15 years.

Don't try to ignore it. Deal with it now and stop it.

Don't shout but sit your mother down and have a discussion about appropriate language and the effect on self esteem. Make sure that she knows that you're serious.

If necessary (and ONLY if necessary) remind her that there are external groups who deal with abusive parents.

When Albert Einstein asked why he didn't comb his hair this morning he replied, "I just couldn't be bothered."

That seems like a reasonable reply to me. People who don't get it ... never will. They have a different set of values than you do. They actually believe that clothes and style are very very important. Don't get me wrong, it is important to be clean and clothed, but it's not necessary to fret about styles and such.

I would rationally explain to them that clothes and style are numbers 100 and 101 on the list of things that are important to you. You understand some people find value in such things, but you are not one of them.

You come on... come on and help us stop this abuse of someone who is at risk of depression! The mother also needs help, but if it's impossible, I'm going to help my countrymen first and the others later.

BTDT is an INFIDEL!!1

Infidel? Did you convert to Islam? Or are you on a crusade?

Tweety_fan, next time your mum does that take cracks at her for being old and ugly. Looks aren't the best thing to have anyway, you don't get to keep them even if you have them, so in the long run, they're pointless.

They're morons. Just don't listen to them.

Physically attack someone in your family because they made an unkind comment? No. Respond by insulting them in return? Tempting, perhaps, but... no.

This is good advice.

Yes, people tell me all of the time to take more pride in the way that I look.
My mother is not one for doing this, it is my grandmother who tells me that my clothes are ugly, or my hair is messy or I smell etc.

I just tell her that it is not important to me to look fantastic. I have more important things to think about, such as how I am going to get a better education whilst I am still young.

I would just criticize other peoples' looks right back at 'em. They say your hair isn't done properly? Then say it looks like they cut their hair with a lawnmower.

dont stand for it! stick up for yourself say 'thats your opinion but its not mine'
they are probally feeling insecure about there own appearance