after 7 yars or so

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of not talking to my real dad this is all he has to tell me. he seems more intrested in my mother. anyways do you get people in your life that only talk to you during the holidays? and if you do how does it make you feel?

I talk to my mom about once a month, but the only time I see her is Christmas day, and she lives around the corner from me.

Could it be that your dad doesn't know how to talk to you? My dad hasn't a freakin' clue what to say to me. Mostly we talk sports or catch up on what we've been doing, and the philistine doesn't even like baseball.

maybe. but still, i mean wouldnt you like to say something else in a card other than that after 7 yars

I have no idea why people that won't talk to you if they passed you on the street all year long feel obligated to send you Christmas cards...makes me a bit pi$$ed off .

Doesn't make up for seven years...doesn't make it right.

...give him an A for making "some kind of" effort, and try to let it go...he could have not sent anything I guess. From the way it's written it honestly sounds like he didn't know "what" to say.

The only correspondence between us(My Mom's kids) and her family(Mama, aunts, and uncles) are Christmas cards and gifts. They don't usually say anything other than "Love, so and so."

If we didn't make an effort to go up and see them every year that would be all we'd ever get from them. It was all we got before 2004. My mom basically outed herself and us from the family, saying she doesn't want any part of them and telling them bad things about us. Us kids are sorta trying to get back in touch, but being introverted makes it difficult. If it weren't for my brothers wanting to go up there, I probably would just give up as I don't really seem to fit in with them anymore anyway(My cousins have outgrown me socially). But the effort isn't costing me too much. And family politics aside, I like it up there.

I don't interact with any of my extended family.

If they happen to phone the house and I answer (which is rare) they just say hi then ask for my mother. No actual swapping of news or anything. I actually quite like it. I don't really care what is going on in their life so would much rather not have to hear about it. And I don't know if they care what's going on in mine, but I don't really want to explain it.

Besides, none of them know i am autistic. I think they just think I am an unsociable arse.

I wonder if they suspect it of me.

My uncle was over once a long time ago, my mother was trying to show me off and told him I'm artistic. He replied jokingly, "Did you say he was autistic?" She showed him some of my drawings and then told him I could be one of them baton twirlers, and made me twirl a stick in front of them... My cousin grabbed the stick when I dropped it and twirled it better than me.

I'm protesting the whole time, "No mom, don't show him my stupid drawings." "I don't want to be a baton twirler, it's just something I do when I'm bored. I'm not very good."

I don't know what they think of me, I'm sure they think I'm a disappointment though.

Not much.

More than nothing.

Perhaps a start on connecting.

By the time I got to meet my father as an adult, we had nothing in common.

I was part of his relationship with my mother, and that did not turn out well.

Having her take it out on me did not help. I could see why he left, I did too.

I felt like he did the crime, and I was left to take the rap.

I would have accepted an apology, I never got one.

Discovering AS late, I might have been the straw that broke the camel's back between them.

They both seemed to blame me.

I have my own life to live.

In my case the dead should not come back to life, perhaps it is different for others.