Why don't they understand what I'm saying!! !

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I moved to FL with my husband (he is an aspie) I have Autism so we understand each other to some extent
I didn't realize how much it takes out of me to live independtly..cleaning,cooking,just normal everday "adult life" things. On top of that going to college even though im only taking one class....everyday i come home with massive headaches,meltdowns,stimming out....my parents came down to FL and I have been trying to explain to them that I just can't do this anymore...I need help....I love my husband because he truly understands me...but i feel like i cant get through my parents that i can't do college anymore and i need to find a job that i can work out and still be myself....I need help...I need help with the cleaning cooking the house stuff.....i just don't know if i can handle this everyday stress and duties anymore...i dont know what to do....i feel like the more im trying to be "normal" to be "like the person my parents want me to be" the more I cant seem to do it......if i dont go to college i will never hear the end of it...but if i contunie its going to kill me....i just dont know what to do in life anymore....can anybody help me please....PLEASE

I would invest in a little floor cleaning robot, a dishwasher, or try to use paper dishes.
Also, do as Einstein, he used to wear the same suit everyday cause he had a lot of the same suits.
I mean, try to simplify your life. I did simplify my life
I live in a trailer now. I spend no more than 15 min doing house cleaning.
I used to worry about what to wear to college, now I do online college.
hope this helps
I'm married too and is very hard for an aspie to manage the house, plus interact with in-laws, my husbands' friends and co-workers. At one point I felt that there was no way out, that my world was comming to an end and there was no hope. Now that I know of my As diagnosis I can make better decisions. I don't try to be this great, perfect wife, I'm just trying to work around my own schedule.
Focus on your talents and don't try to please everybody, it's yur life. Live it

I think its cool you guys were able to find each other.. good luck

Don't worry, you can really do it, especially now, because they have, as caramateo mentioned, online college. There are also fully accredited adult-oriented colleges that allow you to work with mentors and do most of your work at home.

It is really worth getting a degree - just don't feel that you have to do it in four years. Work at a comfortable pace, taking all the time you need, and then you may find that you can carry more and more credits at a time.

Best of luck to you!

thank you for the adivice i will try and see what i can do....its just very stressfull and i feel like im not moving forward like im just taking steps back even when i try...i got my DX last aug...i will have to look into online college....are there any good ones? I want to be a teachers assisant or day care helper.
thanks again guys