Are people trying to make me feel bad about my best friend?

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Maybe I mentioned in a earlier post, but I already have a best friend for thirteen years. NT, but we get along good.

Last year I was visiting some countries in Europe with him and we had some irritations about the travelling schedule. But we made up and drank a couple of local beers.

Now it is a few months later and we were getting along well. He recently met a girl, I was really happy for him, his efforts to have a presentable life had given him something nice. Most people around me know he has this girl friend. They keep asking me if I find it difficult that he has a girlfriend so we can not see each other as much as we did. To be honest it was a bit difficult, but it is part of life and I moved to another part of the country anyway, seeing each other was more difficult in any case. But when those people keep asking that question I start feeling miserable. It is like they make me feel bad about him, like they want to break the friendship.... they would have no reason, but is still feels that way.

And for some reason our vacation keeps popping up in my head...

i don't think that they want to, they just don't think much
they just feel like now it's their turn to ask a question and it's the first thing that comes to their minds.

I detect a certain snideness on their part; as if you couldn't function without him or something. Maybe his girlfriend could fix you up? who knows...

I do not think they are intentionally hurting me (at least I do not hope so). But it makes me unhappy. I had handled it for myself and for some reason people still think I am not done with it, and they keep 'pestering' me. Maybe because I do not make new friends easily.

And the suggestion from pakled about the girlfriend is a nice idea.

Maybe I am making a too great deal about it, but I am feeling bad about it for weeks now.