I don't have any friends

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I really don't know what's wrong with me. I think I'm nice and friendly, and make friends easily. The thing is, I can't keep them. Sometimes I try not calling my "friends" for a while to see what happens... needless to say, my phone never rings. I'm depressed now because I was supposed to go to a party with one of those friends, but he disappeared. I felt like going alone (I have done it many times before) but now I'm self-conscious.

You are in the same situation as more than a few folks here.

Where do your friends come from? Work? School? Clubs? Church?

They're all people I go to school with. I don't know what to do. I feel like going out by myself but for some reason I don't feel confident enough right now. I think it's because I know I'm expected to go with friends...

I have a few friends, but they are all gone off to universities, leaving me all alone. There are a couple of people on this site I consider friends. I can be your friend if you like.

Haha thanks. I've never met anyone here, but I guess I'm not around much.

No problem.

So is this Junior High, High School, College, University, VoTech School....?

One of the places I found that a person does well even when showing up alone is at community dances like Contra-Dances, Folk Dances, etc.

They generally have live music and lots of happy people around to dance with.

I suppose there could be other places too.

But I suppose you're wanting someone you know to go out with to places you two know people at?

Friends are overrated.
You want them...you get them...you end up wanting to be alone when they want your company and vice versa.
The concept is nice enough, but the reality is it is better to have aquaintances, then there is less pressure.

I'm sure you'll find close friends eventually, probably on a fluke.

Be warned... sometimes they'll try to occupy the personal space you need. That can be frustrating. Admonish them for it. Don't metaphorically or physically shove them away (unless you absolutely have to )... explain to them that social situations can be high maintainance for you, and at times you'll need a breather. If they can be truly classified as friends, they'll oblige (though don't expect them all to necessarily understand).

Stick in there, livinglearning!

- D

Look at it this way: if you don't have special friend-relationships then everyone is your friend is a relative sense.

I hope things improve with you soon!

Thank you for all the replies! I feel much better now. I decided to go out by myself and had a great time! Nobody thought I was a loser for being alone... they actually thought it was pretty cool. And I realize that I don't have any close friends because I'm always pushing them away. I agree with Dracula about the about friends occupying my personal space so I much prefer those superficial contacts anyway. People are there when I need them but don't expect things I can't give them. Definitely less pressure, as Graelwyn said. Thank you, guys! I'm in college by the way.

You are very welcome!

Plus you have all of us on WP to be friends with.

Of course, Tim!

I'll be your friend, livinglearning.