Loss of Purpose

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Everything that used to make me happy is gone now. I have nothing to look forward to. I spend every day waiting until 10 pm so I can toss and turn, trying to sleep, for the next 9 hours until school. In the morning I can't even convince myself to get up, so I've been getting to school 2 or more hours late. At school I just stare at the clock until I can go home and repeat the process. I've been out of school for the past four months so I'm dismally behind in my school work. I'd be able to salvage some of my classes by the end of the year if I could just get my act together, but I can't even manage to do that. I'm constantly tired. I'm not eating at all. I barely sleep. And now I'm rambling my incoherent problems to people I don't even know over the internet. What should I do?

You sound depressed

This is not good but many people survive, regular exercise helps good long walks or my favorite cycling but most important is the belief that life will get better, sometimes it doesn't feel like it but it will. Some foods can make it worse I avoid foods with colorings some of them have quite an awful effect on me, sometimes it's an allergy, maybe just a change of diet brings on other changes that are necessary to change life. If things are bad there is nothing wrong with seeking medical help.

Whatever gets you through the night, is alright!

Hang on in there!

Bad advice, says my bottle of rum.

Productive response? No. Don't know what to say...I'm in the same position as the author. I lost my girlfriend(practically wife) and son. I try to make amends and apologize as much as I can, she still ignores me. I've seen my son 4 weeks in the past year.

Changing your diet or exercise is the answer? Does that bring my son back to my life? Does that stop his Mother from pretending I don't exist?

I detest such easy answers akin to anti-depressants. So easy to say, yet you just try f*****g doing it.

In no way am I sugesting any an easy answer.
I klnow full well there is not one, What I'm trying to say is don't give up!
However you get by is worthwhile and you can get by.

Last edited by iceb on 08 Apr 2008, 1:02 am, edited 1 time in total.

Yes, forgive me...I'm rather negative at the moment. It's just so hard to swallow that pill of "hope" at times.

If you're hopelessly behind in your classes, can you retake them next semester instead of trying to catch up now? Or if you're graduating, can you take upgrading in college? Why were you out of school for 4 months??

It's probably a good idea to see a doctor, especially if you're not able to eat and sleep properly. It could be a medical problem other than depression, though of course depression itself is serious enough.

I think the best thing you can do is make some sort of plan for the near future. If you have something to work towards, then life always seems more meaningful.

What happened that you had to miss 4 months of school? Of course you can get your act together and salvage some of your classes! Sounds like you want to! Sounds also like you are being a bit too hard on yourself..Relax. You have said you are "dismally" behind in school-work...well if you put it that way...doesn't sound much fun. Take it one step at a time, don't let the whole "pile" scare you.

Just an idea...talk to each of your professors or teachers, after class. Get a clear idea of what you need to make up for each class (number of assignments, chapters to read etc). For each class, divide the work into weekly milestones or whatever schedule works for you (basically put together a PLAN to follow, for each class). Then you won't have to look at the BIG PICTURE...just focus on your next milestone, then on the next...ask the professors/teachers for feedback...Build some "buffer time" into your schedule too..just in case you can't stick to one of the deadlines etc. If you miss one, don't get discouraged...it happens..just keep moving.

For me, breaking the big picture into small, not-so-scary steps, has helped with taking an exam, about a year ago. I felt stressed out and intimidated only when looking at the books:) But after sitting down, breaking all that into small tasks and posting the schedule on the wall in my room...it was manageable.

I don't know if you are religious...praying helps too. It gives comfort and a sense of focus and being calm and patient. You should also talk to a doctor about how you're feeling.

Hugs! Keep us posted on how everything si going.