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OMG. The worst day ever. Hope you guys don't care if I rant...

So my manager at work has made my life a living hell because I don't "interact personally enough" with the customers at work. I've always been cordial and am well liked by my clientele, but we're expected to shake hands, let them sit close to us (a BIG no-no for me), walk them to the door, and all kinds of other completely stupid stuff. I've worked for the company for 4 years and am REALLY good at my job. My other managers sort of overlooked my social problems because I was a stable and dedicated worker. This guy just doesn't get it.

I've been applying for jobs all night. I don't know what to do. I don't like change, but I can't handle this boss anymore. He knows about my Asperger's and social anxiety...he thinks it's something I can "overcome".

In addition, it seems like I don't have any real friends. The people that call me "friends" only do so, I think, because they know they can depend on me. When they don't need me, they don't call. I have one real friend that I've grown up with (she's a suspected Aspie, lol, we were born three hours apart and she is like my twin), but she lives in Norfolk, which is 8 hours away. Plus my fiance doesn't understand the anxiety part...like why I wig out if we're in a room full of people.

I went to the psych clinic today and they had to refer me to another doctor to write a prescription. Still don't know when I'm going to get to see him...meanwhile, this is killing me. I got so upset today that I threw up. Grr.

Anyway, wow, I hate to b*tch and moan like this but...it's been a horrible day...

(hugs HH912)

Oh, that sucks! I understand the fear of change, but know that you'll get through it. Try surrounding yourself with stuff that are familiar and pleasing.
I need a hug too, so I'm happy to give one as long as you give one back

What kind of work do you do that you would be expected to touch or sit close to your clients? I don't have AS but I gotta tell you.....I don't care for touchy people. I take care of small children, they I don't mind at all. But a grown person, expecally someone of the opposite sex in a professional setting....nope. I think the hand shaking is polite and walking someone to the door is considered polite, but walking them to the door is not necessary, sitting close to me....I don't think so. If you live in the U.S.A your boss cannot hassle you regarding your aspergers he, by law must accomodate you or you have grounds for a lawsuit.

One trick that works is nothing. Hiding in a closet is good, or a celler. Get away from light, sound, people, and build yourself a soft padded nest.

If you have hills I would recomend digging an upward sloping tunnel, with a chamber at the top, filled with grass. Bring some carrots to chew on.

Shuting it all out for a while recharges the batteries, and makes it much easier to deal with.

We can deal with load, but not constant load. The more you can let go, silent, dark, curled up in a ball, the better and faster it works.

When I come in from fighting traffic, I go to bed, in a half hour I am ready for the next round.

We just need some extra processing time.

And some hugs. Virtual are best, next is facing each other, signaling hug, advancing, firm hug, break.

It looks strange when written down, but it works.

((((((((((happyheather912))))))))))

Does your company have a Human Resources department that can mediate for you with your manager?

Patricia

(((((HUG)))))

(((((HUG)))))

No hug of any size can help me cheer up right now.

step out side,
Close your eyes,
feel the wind upon your skin as it wraps around you,
as it gently caress's your skin and cheek,
as it gently dances in your hair,
and then listen closely to the whispers I send you dancing in the air,
and know its me sending you my care and affection and understanding,
that its me giving you a hug from deep within the heart of mine to yours.

some NTs can be really bad about social problems they just dont get it *HUG*

*super-hugs for Heather*

Since you don't like touchy people, I won't hug you. However, I can offer you consolation that you aren't the only one out there with similar issues. I don't understand unneeded socialization with customers/clients/etc. They always say its to "look more professional", well I'd like to take that energy and use it to BE more professional.

Anyway, I hope you get through everything alright.