Sadistic Adults.

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Why Do adults take sadistic pleasure in making their aspies miserable? I want to know.

the same reason sadistic children do.
sadistic children grow up to be sadistic adults

if you see yourself as a victim, so will they, and they seek you out and they will torture you because you let them.

if you didn't let them, they would move on to easier prey. they are cowards, not fighters.

if adults have power over you, know that they are not going to change by appealing to their sense of justice or humanity. They won't. Learn how to placate them until you can get away from them, (tend and befriend, rather than fight or flight).

Other than that, I have no advice.

Merle

I know my father has a couple of times.

The simple truth is, that by making others feel bad, you can feel good. I've been on both sides (more often the receiving end). By humiliating others in public, the spectators will laugh at them, and they attribute that laughter to your efforts, which makes you feel good. Like hunting: you mount a deer's head on your wall and your friends compliment you on it, which makes you feel good at the deer's expense. The average aspie is a deer with only two legs in this case.

Even if its not in public, there is still the thrill of power I guess. Supposedly you can take the high road and ignore them, though I tried that in middle school and I guess I messed up because even though I managed to put on the appearance of ignoring them, the things they said still got to me on the inside, and it has been a major influence on my current outlook on life. So unless you can find this fabled "high road", well....I got nothing other than that. Sorry I can't be of more help.

My father still carried around the emotional torture of his father insulting him and his mother and beating him 40 years later. So he would insult me and my mother, and feel better, like for once HE was in charge, HE was the powerful head of the household, HE was the one doing the insulting and the one that knew better and the one you'd be sorry if you didn't listen to.