Issue with wedding guest

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I am getting married in a few months. The invitations are sent and some responses are comming back.

There was one person I did not want to invite, he is the husband of one of my aunts and I refuse to call him a uncle, I will call him 'J'. J is rude, yells at his kids ALL the time, even in public, I am yet to see him in a good mood. My cat the late Snowball had a 6th sense on people, he hissed at J when he first saw him, Snowball NEVER did that, so already I knew this guy was bad news.

I aunt has 2 children from a previous relationship, a boy and a girl. The boy is actually a very nice and polite person, we get along great, but J favors the girl and flaunts this in his face. He buys all these presents for the girl, and gives boy a nasty attitude. J is the most likeable cause to the boy's undoing, he began to get into trouble with the law, stole cars. He was in corrections and the staff are shocked that a sweet and polite person would do that kind of thing, but it was concluded that the thrill of theft is used as a emotional pain-killer.

The invitation I was gonna send to family did not include J's name, my mom got angery and told me to invite him. I explained my postion and how I just pain don't like the guy. It's up to me to invite who I want isn't it? My mom says it will make her look bad if I invited one person and not the other.

So it's about her? It's not her wedding, so is soooo obsessed with self-image. I don't care if people talk about me not inviteing him. She says she dosn't want people to talk about me and I say "it would be about me not you'

I am not sure what to do.

Weddings are a hectic time for families, a lot of trying to make people look good and keep the peace. When families get together drama happnes always. I think your mother just wants to keep the peace.

Ewww...extended family. This is why we went with the local JP. Then of course, I still have the relatives that told me this is why "it didn't work", because we weren't "married in church".

Any way you can invite him and seat him as far away as humanly possible...like in the parking lot? Sorry, I'm evil.

Whatever you decide...I wish you lots of luck and hope it's a very happy, and unstressful day for you.

Congratulations on your upcoming Wedding Chibi_Neko. I hope you get things worked out so you can enjoy the ceremony. Maybe you can hire Tanya Hardings ex?

Outdoor wedding....sounds wonderful!

"Spawn of Satan?" Now that's a good one.

This is why my husband and I set a secret date, disappeared to Niagara Falls, and had a special day that was just about us. To hell with spending a fortune on an event that invariably brings more stress and drama than anyone needs. However, I know this route isn't for everyone. Ultimately, this is your decision, and since he apparently doesn't consider others' feelings, don't feel obligated to consider his. BUT, do consider your aunt and cousins. If you want them there, it would be inappropriate not to invite Jerk.