I feel so bad....

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So yesterday was friend's birthday. We already had a big birthday bash for her last Saturday. Today is her official birthday, but there is nothing planned.

We were going to go out for dinner with a few people, the other people couldn't make it, it was just us 2. We were going to a nice restaurant we both really like, but it was packed and we had to go elsewhere.

I asked her where she wanted to go, it's her birthday after all. All of sudden she got really mad at me and asked me to drive her home. I didn't even know what I said. I didn't really say anything other than how disappointed I was that we couldn't go to that restaurant. I tried to say I was sorry and I didn't mean anything, but she just wanted to be driven home. I felt so bad.

Later that night she sent me a picture of herself with a birthday cake alone and said I ruined her birthday.... Why would you go out and buy a cake, take a photo just to make me feel worst?

I don't even know what I did wrong, but all I know is I didn't have any bad intentions at all. If I were a normal person maybe I could have begged for forgiveness and made it all better, but I got really scared and closed up.

Anyway, I feel so bad. I wish I were dead. Sorry for the rant.

I would send her this message in an email. People are insane and irrational and I don't think you did anything wrong. I think she was feeling sorry for herself that the other people canceled and took it out on the one person who was actually trying to be there for her. Insane. I have no "good advice" really, this is just the type of thing that makes me end friendships, (which explains why I have none). I just have no tolerance for illogical emotions and people who try and manipulate me with them.


Can you try and talk to her other friends about what happened? Maybe they have some insight into why she was being so "drama queen" about the night.

Vulcan, from what you've told us, I can't really see why she's mad at you at all - after all, at least you turned up for her birthday meal, unlike the others. Also, it wasn't your fault that the restaurant was full. And buying the birthday cake and sending a picture... er, that's just sad.

I can understand that she's upset that her birthday didn't go according to plan, but that's not your fault!

Sigh, can't control my aspie traits today. Haven't looked anyone in the eye all day at work. Just my luck I have to go around the office passing out pins for this fundraiser thing too.