Shaken after car accident

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I have a Learner's Permit not a licence. Last night I took my mum's car out she is overseas right now. J. my brother PROMICED to take me to my AS Support Network meeting near by mum's place as usual he is so unreliable and never does what he says. It got to 7.30pm (meeting was at 8pm) he didn't come and without thinking I took the car. I had forgotten where the lights were in mum's car they are in a very strange place and are hard to find especially in the dark and took my eyes off the road for a split second to try and find them and then heard this awful bang that sounded like a bomb going off. I was in a real state and had a meltdown fortunately these lovely lovely women who coincidentally work with aspies were there they were driving behind me I think they looked after me and took me to their place for tea and to pat their cat until J came they eventually managed to get onto him.

IT WASN'T A LACK OF EXPERIENCE ERROR or a sign that I don't know how to drive I have over 120 hours experience. Fortunately the damage to both cars isn't too bad and is fixable I will pay for the damage. It will cost me several hundred $ to fix the damage and I have been banned from driving with my stepdad (once he gets back) for four weeks. The police weren't called but that is irrelavent because I have already been punished enough I am still very shaken even 24 hours later.

Well, all's well that ends well, as they say. I have been in two accidents myself, both involving flat tyres. Shortly after I got my driver's licence, I had a flat tyre while driving down an icy slope in midwinter. My car made a complete turn in the middle of the road - luckily the drivers behind me managed to stop, or I would have caused a pile-up. Then, as I drove carefully onto the curb, the cabin started to fill with smoke! It turned out that coincidentally, the isolation on the electric cable leading to the tail-lights had begun to smolder. What are the odds?

Several years later, my dad had a blowout while we were driving on the highway at 120 km/h. We were in the fast lane, and the drivers on our right (high on testosterone, no doubt) wouldn't let us onto the emergency lane! My dad (who was seventy-eight at the time) kept his cool however and got us out safely, so that we could call the towing service. The tyre had been completely shredded, and for some reason we didn't have a spare tyre with us.

I hope things improve with you soon!

I was in one accident while on holidays in 2001. It was late at night driving along a country road with no streetlights and my brother was behind the wheel. As we were just coming over a high crest, we saw a large truck tyre just sitting in the middle of the road...my brother didn't have time to swerve around it, so we ended up running over it which made the car fly in the air as the tyre caught underneath. We almost rolled into a ditch! Significant damage was done to the bottom of the car.
Due to all the trauma we totally forgot to check if the tyre was still there and to move it off the road. I hope no-one else hit it that night

I've never been in a car that's rolled or smashed into anything, but have fishtailed out of control and gone into the ditch a couple times, once on a loose gravel road when my brother was driving, and later on a snowy road when my grandpa was driving. I felt kind of lucky in the latter case that we went off the road when we did, since 20 or 30 feet ahead of where we came to a stop was a huge concrete abutment that probably would have killed us.

Anyway, I know what you mean about feeling shaken for a day or so after; the night after the first accident I could still feel the out-of-control, veering back and forth sensation.

In 2005 I had a driver not paying attention run into the back of my car at about 35MPH (60KPH) and it really shook me up pretty good. I disagree with your thinking that it's not a lack of experience. It takes time behind the wheel for it to be second nature to constantly monitor road conditions and what all the other drivers are doing. Even though it sucks now to deal with, this is a lesson you won't forget and nobody was hurt so that part is good. When I was 15 I backed my Dad's VW Van into the garage and dented the hell out of the Van, and cracked some bricks on the garage. I thought my dad was going to be all over me but he laughed it off, a whole lot of people do stuff like this in the early stages of learning to drive. It's good that you're not hurt.

i only ever tried to drive once when i was 13 and i was petrified when the car started moving i crashed into a wall and not long after i started actually having dreams i was randomly driving

I've been in a few accidents, luckily they were all fender benders, minor damage, no one was hurt. But every time the experience shook me up pretty bad. After a few of them you become a much more cautious driver.

I don't want to be preachy so don't take it that way. Before you put your car in gear, you should turn your headlights on. If you ever need to look for something, wait until you are fully stopped, pull over if you need to, that's what the shoulder lane is for. Also the cops wouldn't have come to punish you, though they may or may not have given you a ticket, they would have come to write a report, many insurance companies require a police report. Lucky for you the person you hit is reasonable and was willing to work it out with you personally. I haven't been so lucky.

I'm glad you came to that realization!

I'd also be shaken up, if that happened to me.

I have been in a few car accidents. One of them was pretty major I guess as there was damage and I was hurt. It was in 1999 and I was a passenger in the back of a van stopped at a light and some idiot hit us going around 30-35 mph. There was damage to both cars but I don't remember much of it. I got severe whiplash due to it though. The other ones are so minor I don't even consider them car accidents. One of them took place in a parking lot earlier this year or late last year. I don't remember which. I was a passenger once again and we were backing up and then an idiot backed up at the same time into our car. We had to honk the horn a million times because he just kept on going and going until we hit each other. I don't drive and I am scared to. There are many reasons why I don't drive but I am not going to mention all the reasons right now. Driving is dangerous and that is all. I am sorry that you were in a car accident though.

I was also in a accident back in July of 1995. I was a fairly new driver at the time. It was when we had the old red Ford Tempo. I was with a friend of mine and we decided to take a ride out to Long Island. I did okay on the expressways and etc. The accident happen when I was on one of those large suburban boulevards. I abruptly stopped at a red light and a Federal Express Van rear ended me! It was a horrible and scary feeling. It was a big sound and the car actually jerk forwarded. I swear to this day I actually blacked out for a split second. I was in a panic! I did not know what to do. Luckily my friend was there with me. He was a little shaken too but he was a bit more calmer than me. Long story short we exchanged info, contacted the cops and I was able to drive home (I don't know how I drove home that afternoon). We did get a settlement from Federal Express since it was a rear ender.

To this day I'm still a bit shaken by that accident. As a matter of fact I had a similar rear end accident a little over a year after that one. It wasn't as bad because the damage was as extensive and we did not sue.

I once totalled a car when I fishtailed on a wet road at 75mph (don't do that anymore). Slammed into a tree. I was unhurt, but could easily have been killed if my car had hit the tree at a different angle and not bounced back towards the road.

Unfortunately for my brother, I had borrowed his car for the trip. It kind've started a series of events that led to his declaring bancrupcy (oops).

Anyway, yeah accidents happen when you get distracted. Hell, when I switched to a manual about a year ago (after a clean record for 8 years after the above-mentioned wreck) I almost got into a couple little collissions just because I had to focus on switching gears back and forth.