Almost got anxious at luncheon; and getting over flame wars

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I got a nearly anxiety attack at the Senior luncheon, my mom didn't let me leave or only let me leave for 10 mins to go to bathroom, and I'm seriously still confused over why. First she said 'cause it's a luncheon, then because of food related stuff (it might be served soon). Then there was issues with her boyfriend, claiming that I could feel the difference between an overcoat I just got today. I felt nervous, as my mom and her boyfriend were there, and I feel uncomfortable as they might ask me about acquaintences and they might say something about how I talked to them, etc.

However, that then reminded me of how some people called me a fraud and flame wars in general.

1. This is an old thread, so don't bump it. But I want you to look over this, this has really been bothering me somewhat. I posted a thread earlier and they said I was right and the like; but how do you get over being flamed on the internet? Yes I know it's immature but has it happened where you constantly think over those incidents and how you could have done differently?

Basically, is there anything wrong I did. And in general, how do you cope with flamewars in general. If you answer the luncheon problem stuff, that is a bonus but I do not expect it as I admittedly phrased it weird likely.

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EDIT: and my comp is kind've slow, I'm working on trying to get this faster. And I'm paranoid about post-graduation stuff, problems with my mom and jobs and me working on stuff, and other issues with her.

EDIT 2: and whether I'm graduating period. Ranked 20 out of 150 Freshman year. Now I'm 80 or so out of 120.

You have to forgive yourself along with the others and move on. That is what I have done.

Sorry I don't have advice for you to get over this but have you showed them the link here to this place telling them you are on here. They can come here and read your posts and maybe they will see you are a true aspie.

I read the whole thread...Rather painful, I must say.

The problem is trying to talk about AS issues in this context...a forum not designed for it. It is difficult to clarify every word you use when people expect posts to be a few sentences. I don't necessarily agree with every word you said but i don't think you said anything really wring and your intentions were good. I really think this is on-line bullying and inspite of all the people there who claimed to be AS...(goodness....the numbers for AS most have gone from 1 in 150 to 1 in 10 over night ). I doubt the true of some of these posters. Don't forget that we do tend to be trusting and naive because we don't like to lie. I have seen other people post their "flame threads" here and it is the same thing every time...all of a sudden everyone there claims to be an aspie who has the right to speak for all aspie. Any aspie who has done their research on it (are they really aspie if they don't do research???)knows that we are all functioning with different abilities and different challenges.

I must say, personally, if these are the examples of "fixed aspies" who just learned to be more NT, I would prefer staying broken. It just makes me ask once again...how can anyone claim that aspies are rude, insensitive or unempathetic when such cruel people as these....claiming to have over come their AS can be the "norm". In other words...if I have to become an as**ole to be normal...I will pass on the cure.

BY the way, I believe that they intentionally tried to take your statements out of context for their own sadistic enjoyment. I understood your point of not "saying" you were aspie BEFORE they said you were...it was very clear if they had bothered to read your words, yet they persisted to act like you had not said it correctly and were there for a liar...absurd tactic...it was used on John Kerry during the 2004 election. He said "I was against the war before I was for the war"...any one who heard the original statement knew what he was talking about but the compitition kept playing the quoit out of context to make it look like he was lieing or being a "flip flopper". It's a very manipulative thing to do and I believe it is what this "N" poster<--the one with the break dancing charactor, was doing to you. He probably learned the technique in high school debate team. Just don't respond to the guy...he will twist everything and is more likely a sociopath then an aspie or he is one of those people who suffer from "Stockholm Syndrome"<----goggle it, intersting stuff. He was probably beat up so many times in school that doing the same to someone on line is the only way he can redeam his manhood<---sad huh?

I seriously, AGAIN thank you all. Some of their flames were getting to me. Seriously, THANK YOU.